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Inviting Distant Relatives

Sabrina , on June 22, 2018 at 11:05 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 4

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My mom has a large family who are now spread out across the country and are not in very close communications. I know most from brief holiday gatherings (when they choose to come every few years.) We are pushing the limit on our guest count, but I still have friends I would like to invite. Of course I want to invite my family members, but I am scared that they will RSVP no and by that time my other friends will not be able to come as well since they didn't get a save the date. Is there a polite way to ask these relatives ahead of time if they know whether or not they will be coming so I can invite others instead that would probably be able to come?

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Latest activity by Maren, on June 25, 2018 at 11:10 AM

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Tpatb · on June 23, 2018 at 2:36 AM
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You could always send their STD first. However, if you are pushing the guest limit, only see them every few years & really want to a few friends why should you have to sacrifice that? Is your mom contributing to the wedding? If not, your guest list is up to your discretion.
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Cassidy · on June 23, 2018 at 7:52 AM
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Don’t overinvite. I did and it was not good. I panicked the whole time. It all worked out. But don’t do it.
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FutureMrs.L · on June 23, 2018 at 9:15 AM
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I didn't invite any family members I have no relationship with. My dad is one of 8, my mom 1 of 4. I invited those I have a relationship with. I didn't invite cousins or kids.

As Cassidi said, don't overinvite. That can lead to more guests, and adjusting finances last minute.
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Maren · on June 25, 2018 at 11:10 AM
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Hi Sabrina!
Welcome to WeddingWire and congrats on your engagement!
I totally agree with Carrell. Your guest list is your discretion and inviting the people who you are closest with, whether that be friends or whomever, is going to make you happiest in the end.
How big is your guest list?
I hope this helps!
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