Inviting Coworkers

Do you want these people there? The general rule is that anyone who gets a save the date needs to get an invitation, but you can absolutely send out invitations to more people than you sent save the dates to. The bigger question is if you actually want these people there. Also, while unlikely, it is also recommended not to invite more people than your venue/budget can accommodate. There is always the off chance that every single person RSVPs yes, so I would keep that in mind if you decide to invite these people.

I wouldn't invite coworkers unless you have a relationship with them outside of the office. I have about 25 people who I work directly with and I'm only inviting one person who I hang out with outside of work. If its in your budget and you want them there, you can extend the invite but don't go over your budget and break your back to accommodate people you just met. Chances are they aren't expecting an invite anyways.

Only invite coworkers if you regularly socialize outside of working hours.

I would not invite coworkers of 3 weeks.

Hi there,

It is ultimately up to you! Can your budget afford more guests? I personally would not just because you've only known these people for 3 weeks plus our budget is tight and we are only allowed 80 at our reception venue. However, if you've already started growing close to these people and could potentially see them as life long friends and your pocket can afford it... Id say go for it

I wouldn’t

I would not invite your coworkers. Unless you spend time with them outside of work, it seems premature.

I would not invite them after such a short time.

I probably wouldn’t unless you are actually close friends with them outside of work. That being said, your wedding is in December and invitations should be sent 6-8 weeks beforehand (save the dates are optional), so there is still plenty of time before you actually have to decide this.

Stick with the invite list you’ve had all along. Only 3 weeks, they’re not going to be insulted you didn’t invite them.

If I just met someone three weeks ago and suddenly got invited to their wedding I would think it was really weird. That's a very rushed friendship and I would be taken back by someone moving so quickly!

Your wedding is not until December, meaning invites will most likely go out sometime in October. Save the Dates are not a requirement, and you can send invitations to people you did not send an STD to, but you can't do it the other way around.

I would continue to develop a friendship with these people over the next several months and then make a decision whether or not to invite them sometime in September or October. Then send an invite to those you want to include at the same time that you send invites to all your other guests.

I also agree with others that I would only invite people who I have a relationship with outside of the workplace. I invited four coworkers to our very small wedding but all are people I do things with outside of work that have nothing to do with work.

I also started a new job after I sent out save the dates. I felt it was a little awkward to talk about my wedding with coworkers considering I wasn't inviting them, but they seemed to all understand. I made a point to say that it was a limited guest list, mostly family and long-time friends, etc. None of my new coworkers asked to be invited to my wedding. They loved hearing details about the planning but they seemed fine to leave it at that. They did throw me a bridal shower at work and that was a lot of fun. Still, it seemed like that was sufficient for them and I didn't invite them to the actual wedding.

View Quoted Comment Thank you!! it’s so uncomfortable to talk about it when no one is invited. and it’s not like the wedding is in the next couple weeks either. if there is room in the budget after RSVP’s come back, i might invite 1 or 2 people