Inviting coworkers

I would invite whoever you have a friendship with outside of work.

If you don't have a relationship with any of them, but you still plan to invite some, then I would invite them all if it's within your budget. I'm not sure why you wouldn't invite someone to your wedding because they're in school.

I just invited my immediate co-workers only as we are also a small department at my job.

My FH and I went back and forth on inviting our coworkers as well. We decided to only invite those we have a relationship with outside of our offices. I work in timeshare, he does not. I'm inviting 9 people at my site and my FH is inviting 2 from his work. These are people that we hang out with outside of work and stay in contact with when we are out for holiday breaks or on vacation.

In your situation, if it's in your budget, I'd say invite all of them. If you want to keep your numbers down, only invite the 5 you are sure of. I, too, am a people pleaser and it was hard for me to decided who to invite and who not to invite. I didn't want to hurt anyone's feelings and wanted to invite everyone in the building I work in mainly; which is around 20 people. I had to make the hard decisions to cut people out b/c we couldn't afford to invite everyone I work with on a daily basis. It was also unreasonable for me to do so.

They can always say no. An invite doesn't mean there's an obligation. You can also let them know you understand if they can't come. Remember, just because you want certain people at your wedding, not all of them will be able to attend.

I wanted to invite my immediate team to my wedding, but I couldn't afford to have them bring their spouses, so I decided not to invite them. Instead, I brought them cupcakes from the bakery where I'm getting my cake, and thanked them for being so supportive over the last year, explained the situation, and we all just talked and ate a bunch of cake. Most people will understand that you can't afford to invite everyone because they're grownups and they get it. Some won't want to come even if they are invited (or won't be able to come), and some will be expecting invitations even if you never intended to give them one (don't ask me why - some people's children. LOL). Hope that helps a little!