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Megan
Just Said Yes April 2020

Inviting coworkers

Megan, on June 13, 2019 at 8:07 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 7
I work in an office of about 24 people and we’re broken off into different divisions. I’m inviting my whole division but also want to invite a few people from the other divisions, but not all 24 people. Is it appropriate to put a note in the save the date saying “please do not mention at work. Not everyone is invited”? Has anyone done something similar? What have you said? Thanks in advance!

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Latest activity by Sherry, on June 13, 2019 at 2:58 PM
  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
    Caytlyn ·
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    I think most people know better than to discuss things like that at work. I would be a little put off if I received a save the date with a note like that. Maybe it would be more appropriate to deliver them by hand ( in private of course) and just fill them in?

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  • Haley
    Expert October 2020
    Haley ·
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    I think if you're good enough friends to invite the few people to your wedding, they'd already know you don't hang out with EVERYONE from their division and they'd know better than to spread it around.

    I had to draw a line at work and only invite people from the office and not the whooole shop. We are close with a few guys from the shop (fh and I both work for the same place) but not everyone, and it's a small shop so I felt like we couldn't just invite a few. The "rule" is you're supposed to invite everyone or no one but I think that's kind of dumb.

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  • Andrea
    Super October 2019
    Andrea ·
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    I wouldn’t add a note, but might send a discreet email when you deliver the STDs.
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  • Anna
    Super August 2020
    Anna ·
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    I wouldn't add the note. People will naturally find out about the wedding over time, and then it will look like a bigger deal that you were trying to hide it. Just let it be. I think co-workers will fully understand that not all 24 of them will be invited.

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  • M
    Legend June 2019
    Melle ·
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    I don't think you should add that phrase in, it is sort of awkward. I would think they'd know the etiquette. My coworker asked me about if I invited the others first so he can know if it's appropriate to talk to them about. Even if they did talk about it I'm sure they will have heard at some point.
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  • Jennifer
    Dedicated September 2020
    Jennifer ·
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    My FH and I work together in an office building. We actually are on the same team with the same boss! If we both stand up at our desks we can see eachother haha. My brothers wife also works here so she will of course be at the wedding but other than her i think we are only inviting 3 of our coworkers. We are inviting 4 or 5 others that used to work with us but have since left. I wouldn't worry about it. I cant imagine all 24 people would expect to be invited and I can't imagine they wont find out about sooner or later!

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  • Sherry
    Master September 2019
    Sherry ·
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    If I were one of the 24 that you do not hang out or work with on a regular basis, I would not expect to be invited to your wedding. I wouldn't worry about a note. People will speak regardless and some might be offended that you were trying to hide the fact that they weren't invited.

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