Inviting coworkers to wedding?

I wouldn't invite them. It is your wedding and it is your day. Those pictures are going to be for a lifetime! You want to have people you know, go out with, associate with and already know and love. It's YOUR day; make it special. #you'retheboss #congratulations

Don't invite them. I strongly regret inviting mine.

By walking away you're allowing them to think they are invited. Instead, tell them that as much as you would love to include coworkers, you have agreed to keep the wedding a family event. I'm not inviting my coworkers nor my bosses. That would be very awkward for my as I do not mix my family life with work. I don't bring up my wedding but, if I'm asked about my plans I do give them a brief description. It's as if they're asking about your weekend. It's small talk and they want to have something to ask about.

We won't be inviting anyone from our current jobs. I made it clear early on to my co-workers that we are having a very small wedding with mostly family. Your wedding might not be as small but maybe you should start hinting that it's on the smaller end. They don't have to know that means 150 people.

That's what I keep doing at work I answer questions but try not to bring it up. I've also said we're trying to keep it small but one lady asked how many people! So I downplayed and said 100 and she said oh that's not small! But I hope she got that that was small enough that not anyone from work (& their spouses!) we're going to be included in that :/

I actually am friendly with a lot of my coworkers, and we are still not inviting them. We were out at happy hour recently and someone mentioned wanting an invite, and it was really awkward. I had to explain that while I would have loved to invite them, we are having a small wedding with just family. They understood. Your coworkers are not going to be completely devastated just because you didn't invite them.

Honestly, I don't think anyone I work with is expecting an invite. I'm not close with anyone I work with anyways. I think people just like talking about weddings. It's a big deal in people's lives and talking about it helps them reminisce or think about their own wedding. Honestly, I wouldn't bother telling anyone they weren't invited unless they flat out asked or made a comment suggesting they were invited. It's just not necessary in my opinion.

I wouldn't invite them. I like my co-workers, but I've only been working here a year. And they do ask about the wedding, out of genuine interest but also because they're polite. But I don't think anyone ever assumed they were being invited.

Plus, I feel like if you invite one, you feel pressured to invite all. That's a lot of invites for people you don't really know! Not worth it.

I been dealing with this as well and I know some feelings will get hurt . I'm only inviting one co-worker , she is the only one I go to lunch with and we talk and hang out outside of work . See is also getting married so we have both discussed this and she will remain silent . I been telling the others I'm getting married in my hometown which is 900 miles away.

Ummm if they don't even invite you to lunch why the heck would you invite them to your wedding? Ain't nobody got time for that.

Honestly, in this situation, I agree with everyone on not inviting them. Personally, I'm inviting 5 of my current coworkers & a few from my past job. But, I consider them friends. As for my FH, he's an attorney, so it is etiquette that he invites the partners from his firm. Everyone in the practice has done this. It adds up to about 25 extra people, but the majority will not attend. But, we still had to cut friends to make room Coworker invites are super difficult.

They actually might not think they're invited and just want to share in the fun parts of planning with you. I was a little concerned initially with talking wedding with the women I work with, but they actually offer good suggestions and ask me how things are going. They know they aren't invited, though. I would absolutely invite them if I had space, but I don't. There's no hard feelings.

Thanks for all your comments. It really helps to hear from y'all. Feels better to know that others are dealing with the same thing.

If you spend time with your co-workers outside of work then invite them. If not, then don't invite them.

My co-workers all asked me about my wedding planning and some even talked as if they might be invited. I shared my planning with them. I had no problem talking about it. But at the same time I didn't invite them because I only ever see them at work. I made sure to show them pictures afterwards. They really wanted to see them.

You don't have to invite them

Definitely don't feel obligated to invite your coworkers. I am only inviting coworkers that I spend time with outside of work...but I feel your pain, I had my first awkwardly-probing-for-an-invite conversation with a coworker the other day....it was pretty uncomfortable to say the least. Lol

They might just think weddings are fun, happy things to talk about. Especially if you don't know someone well. More than you think may not feel like they are being invited just because they ask about it. Just my thought.

Lots of good comments and advice here. I planned on inviting mine until I really gave it some good thought. I enjoy the company of my team more, and have invited all of them to my home for a BBQ before. But I feel awkward inviting people who report to me. I don't want to make them feel obligated to come under ANY circumstance. And my coworkers and peers in the organization are not people I will stay in touch with down the road. Similar to another comment, I don't get asked to go to lunch with them when they all go out. Just keep putting into perspective that this is such a special day. You want to be able to be yourself amongst family and best friends without worrying about anyone from working making judgements.