Inviting Coworkers - Only Half Of Them

We invited only those that we truly see outside of work. Both of our departments expanded this year so being able to invite everyone wasn't possible.

I invited most, but gave them their invites discreetly. I didn’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings so those invited know not to talk about anything in front of the others.

I agree with Courtney. We are only inviting those few that we see outside of work. For me, that equals about 3 people out of an office of 20. For FH, that equals about 2 or 3 people out of his group of 12.

For the ones I'm inviting, I'm just going to discreetly give them their invitation. I think my coworkers know that I'm not inviting everyone. The ones who are invited know that they will be, because I've already spoken to them. I just don't want to hurt any feelings, so I've asked them to keep it on the down low. I basically don't talk wedding at the office. Everyone knows I'm getting married, but I think they are smart enough to know that not everyone can be invited. I had made a vague statement when I first announced our engagement, that we were on a really tight budget, and didn't have a lot of wiggle room in the guest list. That seemed to keep people from asking questions about whether or not they were invited.

Some people will ask anyway. It's the nature of weddings, I think.

I spoke to my selected coworkers privately about the invited and mailed them to them to avoid any mix of work/wedding issues. They know the guest list is limited and not all coworkers are invited so I have asked them to be discrete. We are having a smaller wedding, so I couldn’t justify inviting all for the sake of doing so..

That’s a tough one. But honestly it’s your wedding and you get to choose who really wanna share that special day with. I have a coworker whose already said out loud “are we all invited??” In front of everyone!! It’s kinda hard to say no in that kinda situation so I feel obligated.

I am only inviting one coworker and her husband because I have known her a while and we are friends outside of work. FH is inviting a coworker who he hangs out with outside of work along with his plus one. We are mutually inviting a coworker of FH and the coworkers family because we have hung out with them outside of work. Don’t feel too awkward about it, they should be able to understand.

I only invited the coworkers that I was close with and wanted to be there most didn’t take it personally they need to understand that you can’t be expecting to invite everyone in the office just because you work there. Most ppl do not have an unlimited amount of space. You should only invite those that you really want there I’m sure everyone will understand.

H invited three co-workers. One is a longtime friend who got him the job he has now and two are current members of his team he’s been friends with for a few years and who we see socially outside of his job. Basically we went by if it was someone we’d continue to have a relationship with if they or he didn’t work there anymore, they got invited.

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The same thing happened to me too! One coworker (who has never attended a wedding before) asked of that in front of the group immediately after I announced my engagement, and it was awk-ward!

I am inviting my entire team (6) plus my friends from other departments. In total it's about 5 other people. I've hung out with everyone outside of work and have known most for many years even before I joined the company. Invite whoever you want, people will understand.

View Quoted Comment Oh my! Some people have no boundaries lol

You need to make sure whoever you invite will have discretion before and after the wedding. Mail invites, don't hand them out. Make sure they don't gossip ("I'm SOOO excited for this weekend!!) and also to make sure they won't do the same after-("Remember when FH did that thing at the wedding??")