Inviting co-workers... yay or nay?

Since you described that you feel close with all of them, and you truly want them there, maybe play with the numbers to see if you can fit them in the budget!

I suggest inviting those whom you work with most often and whom you are closest to. I invited 1 co-worker and 5 former co-workers.

If you're close with them, then invite them. As long as you can afford it and you want them to be there then there is no problem in inviting them. FH and I are inviting several co-workers to our wedding and we are very excited to have them be a part of our day.

Sounds like you're pretty close to them, so I'd give them an invite as long as it's in the budget. I'm inviting most of my coworkers.

I invited the few co-workers that I'm close with. If I've seen them outside of work on purpose, then I figured they could come hang out at my wedding.

If you spend time with them outside of work and consider them a second family, I would say invite them.

We said no work friends, with the exception of our bosses (we're both close with both of our bosses, so they're more than just co-workers). We knew we wanted to keep it small, so that was one of the first ground rules we set with our guest list.

Can you imagine having a wedding without them? I couldn't imagine a wedding without my coworkers. They're like family.

If you're close, then invite them.

I am inviting my close coworkers, not everyone! I am really only inviting my department (I'm a school teacher). FH is not inviting any of his.

If your venue allows and you feel it's appropriate, you could invite them post dinner. A coworker did that and I didn't feel offended. My venue doesn't allow it though, so I am not inviting coworkers. FH and I are close with a few of his coworkers so he is inviting two.

Thanks for your input ladies! So many good suggestions. My only problem is I'm in a situation where my department is so small and we work so closely together, I would have to either invite everyone or none at all to not hurt anyone's feelings. :/ I still have time to figure it out because we haven't reserved a venue yet. Hopefully our budget will allow us to invite all my coworkers!

I had the same problem. I recently started a new position on a different unit but I had worked on my previous unit forever and I was still working there when FH proposed. There are many of my coworkers that I do not hang with outside of work because I don't really go out, but these are also people I could see myself without. Like you already said if you invite one you have to invite all. I was in that same position. I feel that if you think you can appropriately host you guest then invite them. If you all hang together outside of work then you are not just coworkers, they're your friends. Also, just something to be mindful of, if your unit is open on the weekends they all will not be able to attend, because someone will have to work.

I am def inviting my coworkers... but I am in a similar situation! I work in CT surgery and we are pretty close. I'll be the PA/NPs in my practice, and of course the surgeons and spouses. Im limiting to that though, can't include the entire team b/c that would just be huge. All in all it adds about 12-14 people to my guest list though, a little more palatable cost-wise. And if we do destination they may not all come too.

I worried a lot about leaving people out but decided that I was not going to invite people just because I felt bad, just because they work on my floor and/or because we work together sometimes.

I decided that if any of the following applied to a co-worker, then I shouldn't feel guilty:

1. If I didn't feel like you belong at my wedding because we are not close

2. If I didn't even have your phone number

3. If I didn't know your first name

4. If I never willingly saw you outside of work

Do I think some people will feel offended? Maybe, but if they have a problem I can simply explain to them that we had a budget and only family and close friends were invited.

In your line of work, I see why you would want these individuals at your wedding. You don't work in a real estate office, an insurance office, or a financial office. You work in an environment where life and death binds you together far more definitively than other professions. You have shared you deepest emotions with your co-workers, and I can totally understand why you'd want those co-workers to share in this emotional, milestone event.

If you can afford to invite them, then do it. I have never worked in the health care field -- but I did work in the legal field when I was married. I invited an attorney and her SO. They accepted the invitation but didn't show up. My husband was an engineer, and he invited his co-worker and his wife. They accepted, but didn't show up either. They were my four "no shows".

I doubt you'll have that issue.

"If your venue allows and you feel it's appropriate, you could invite them post dinner. A coworker did that and I didn't feel offended. "

OMG STOP!!!! This is NOT appropriate!!! Either invite them to the whole thing or not at all! @Private User your venue is sending you a message by not allowing you to do that -- they're telling you they don't trust you to be polite so they're making it impossible for you to be rude.

OP, we invited a lot of co-workers. If you're close to them, do it.

Sadly, my venue won't fit more than 50 comfortably, so I can't invite my coworkers. As a nurse, I am close to my coworkers, but as they kept asking about my date, I had to eventually tell them that I could only invite family and a couple close friends. But they understood.

If your venue and budget can handle the extra 20 invites, I'd say go for it! It probably will bring you closer together as well.

Just had this conversation with a coworker two days ago. She said not all coworkers want to go to ones wedding. My FH and I are not inviting any coworkers.

I opted not to invite any coworkers because with their plus-ones it added up to more people than my own family.