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Inviting co-workers and inviting co-workers spouses

Crystal, on October 23, 2017 at 9:34 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 8

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Dilemma!

I am close to my co-workers in the sense that while we are at work, we all talk about our personal lives openly however I haven't hung out with them outside of work except for work related functions. I have also met everyone's spouses at least once at our annual work Christmas party. We have 260 people and I have 4 co-workers who I would like to invite (but 6 co-workers in the office). I know not inviting spouses is rude but is it acceptable since they are co-workers? Also, do I extend the invite to the other two co-workers?

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Latest activity by FutureMrsN14, on October 23, 2017 at 10:36 PM

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QueSeraSera · on October 23, 2017 at 9:38 PM
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I would let them bring their spouses if they want to.
I gave my coworkers the option, and only one of them is bringing her husband. The rest are coming as a group without their spouses (Hallelujah!)
As for the second question ... I don't know what to tell you.
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BlueHenBride · on October 23, 2017 at 9:41 PM
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If you invite anyone, co-worker or not, you also need to invite their SO. A person and their SO are a social unit and it's extremely rude to invite half of a social unit.
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Monica · on October 23, 2017 at 9:43 PM
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I think it would be best to invite their spouses as for the other co-workers I would give the 4 you want to invite their invitation outside of work.
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Rosered · on October 23, 2017 at 9:44 PM
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If you invite your coworkers, you should invite their spouses. I would invite all the coworkers since you want all but 2. With so few not invited it can be awkward, especially in a small office. I would err on the side of all or none in that situation.
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Dreamer · on October 23, 2017 at 9:48 PM
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I invited my co-workers with spouses or with a plus one and of the 8 who attended, only one brought a date. Some were single, others just wanted the night to hang out with work friends. Some had husbands who stayed home with the kids, or didn't really care to attend, because they had never met me. My husband has never gone with me to a co-workers wedding, so yours' might not, either.
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Celia Milton · on October 23, 2017 at 10:08 PM
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No. Your wedding isn't an avenue for your work friends to hang out with work friends. If you invite work people and they have an SO, they get an invite too.

Keep biz and personal separate. Don't invite any of them, especially since you don't see them outside of work.
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muriel · on October 23, 2017 at 10:19 PM
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A good guideline is to only invite co-workers with whom you have a social relationship outside work.
If you don't invite them to your home, you don't invite them to your wedding.
In your particular case, inviting some of them when you don't have a social relationship with any of them, is bound to cause hurt feelings.
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FutureMrsN14 · on October 23, 2017 at 10:36 PM
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It may be UO but I think if your co-workers are close, you could just invite them without spouses and sit them together. My FMIL got invited to her co-workers daughters wedding and it was just a group of girls from the office, none of the spouses were invited and they all had a great time!
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