Inviting brother's girlfriend

I’d hold off on the save the date, but definitely put her on the shower invite list.

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That sounds good, thanks!

I know it meant a lot to me when I was her age and FH's sisters included me in things, and I have an annoying perpetual need to befriend people like that.

Honestly, I'd still invite her! One of my bridesmaids is my brothers gf, granted, she moved in and has been with him a year now...but still, they are young (19) and who knows what could happen between now and then, but I mean you see it in threads all the time "My MOH is Pregnant, my fiances groomsmen is getting deployed" it happens!

Totally invite her! It would so lovely to be included, and it will make both of them feel like adults and like you support them and their relationship.

If they do break up, there is a good chance she won't want to come to your wedding, or she'll be friends with you at that point and it'll be nice to have her.

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This is a great point.

I have a history of staying friends with the ex's of people close to me, so I've been working on not getting so attached

The best man's ex is invited. Two of another friend's exes are invited. Oops.

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That's awesome that you asked her to be a bridesmaid!

I would invite her to all. If she's a part of the family now, include her. After all, if they break up, she probably will decline the invite anyways.

I think you should invite her on the Save the date for your brother. Like send the Save the date as “&guest” so he knows he can bring her! Then as far as inviting her to the shower, for sure do it if you like her! Chances are if they break up, she just won’t go bc she’d probably feel really awkward. Same with the invites “your brother & guest”. I did this for everyone who was not engaged. If they we’re engaged I put “The Future Cornwell’s”

My FHs cousin is military and has been dating his girlfriend for longer than my FH and I. I felt really awkward writing “&guest” on his invite but, recently he moved back into his parents house. They technically aren’t broken up but just taking a break from each other. I’m Happy now that I gave him the flexibility to bring whoever.

Not sure why this is a dilemma. They're dating so she automatically gets invited. If they break up, she knows she was invited because they were dating. If you still want to invite her if they break up, you can deal with that when the time comes, but for the time being, put her name on the save-the-date and the shower guest list. She's invited.

I'd invite her.

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She would be invited either way, but I'm wondering if I should simply keep her as his guest or not. I'd like to send her her own save the date, because let's be honest here, my brother is never going to show it to her or tell her that her name is on an envelope. Or notice that her name is on an envelope. And the shower seems like a good idea now, but I've really only met her probably 5 times and it might be odd as well.

I think 6 months and that she has been at other events makes it 100% you should invite her. If they break up will she really want to come anyways? I'm sure if she is a normal human she would decline coming to any further family events (including your wedding).

When invites are going out I'd make that decision since it should only be about a month ahead of the date! I would probably skip inviting her to the shower because that could be awkward for her to attend with all her bf's family but not him.

That’s nice to include her to the bridal shower but I don’t think it’s necessary to send her a STD or an invitation. If she and your brother are still together then she is his date, therefore she doesn’t need her own invitation. This also is a way to get around the worst-case scenario of uninviting her.