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Inviting all children or certain circles of children?

Jaime, on September 26, 2019 at 9:43 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 7

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So we will be having a wedding where we plan on inviting children. There aren't really a ton of children, but I'm seeing three situations - family with children, friends with children, and coworkers with children. I'm totally planning on inviting family and friend's children because we have some sort of relationship with them and it feels natural. However, we are inviting some coworkers and we know that some of them have children. I'm thinking of one coworker in particular who has three children. I'm not totally against inviting this coworker, husband, and three children... but something about it seems different than inviting the children we have a relationship with. I don't know her children, but I also don't want to be rude. Is it a "thing" to invite family and friend's children but simply invite coworkers and their spouses? Or should I be generous and invite all?

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Latest activity by Alyssa, on September 29, 2019 at 3:12 PM

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M · on September 26, 2019 at 9:49 AM
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We are inviting high school age kids and up, except our niece and nephews. (Two 10 year olds and a 5 year old). I don’t think it’s weird at all to invite kids you’re close with.
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Legend November 2019
Caytlyn · on September 26, 2019 at 9:54 AM
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Inviting in circles is completely fine, but I do think that it could rub people the wrong way if all kids can come except for your coworker’s. Most people I know would opt out of bringing their kids to a coworker’s wedding, but even if so, it’s not like you’re going to be spending time with them.
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Champion July 2019
Veronica · on September 26, 2019 at 10:59 AM
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The general rule is to invite everyone's children or none. However, I think your coworkers/bosses children are an exception. We were originally going to invite children to our wedding, but we had already gone over the number of people we wanted to invite so we decided not to. We never included our coworkers/bosses children on our list. Unless you are really good friends with your coworkers and frequently hang out with them outside of work then I don't feel you need to invite their children. I would however make sure to invite their significant others and if they are single it would be nice of you to give them a plus one, but it isn't required.
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Legend June 2019
Melle · on September 26, 2019 at 11:02 AM
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I did it in circles. So families from church but not kids of coworkers
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Mari · on September 26, 2019 at 1:21 PM
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We are only inviting children in our immediate families who we have relationships with, no third cousin’s kids etc. we weren’t going to have children at all but there are 4 that we just couldn’t do without.
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Nemo · on September 26, 2019 at 1:58 PM
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We did it in circles and did family children only.
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Alyssa · on September 29, 2019 at 3:12 PM
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I'm in a similar situation... I know two of my coworkers kids and love them, but there are others I don't know. I think we will invite all kids, and I'm assuming that some will not bring their children. I would love to know how to word the invite so as to not make them feel like they must bring their kids, bc I know some people will want a night of their own. Thoughts?!
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