Inviting adult children (cousins)

Are these all first cousins? Or cousins’ children? Is he only close to those that are adults? I think you’re right that this can get tricky.

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They are first cousins and they are all siblings (one household).

I think if they’re all from the same household and he’s closer to those counsins than any of the others, there shouldn’t be an issue. People will always find something to be upset about so even if you invited all the other kids, his aunts and uncles could still take issue with something.

Send the adult cousins separate invitations. I wouldn't consider them in the "kids" category, anyway since they are all very much adults at that age. I'm not inviting any of my cousins' kids, but all of my cousins are 30+. If you've made it clear via the grapevine that this is not a kid friendly event, his aunts & uncles should understand why the adult kids are getting invites but the 10 year old is not included on the invite for the parents.

If they're adults, I don't see why this is an issue.

They are adults, this is completely different than inviting the kids. I think you are ok.

I think this will be OK, to invite just the adult cousins. Make sure you address their invitations properly, so there is no doubt who exactly is invited.

Send a separate invite. They are adults and should be separate from their parents anyways. I don't think it's an issue to invite them and not the kids cousins at all. If they say anything just tell them it's an adult only wedding

I think it’s fine as long as you send them their own invite.

If they can’t drink they can’t come. That’s my rule.

My fiancé and I are having a 21+ wedding and are addressing the older cousins separate invitations. Some of the cousins have young kids so they will have the find babysitters. The cousins that are under 21 won't be invited. Unfortunately, you will let people down but it is your wedding. You call the shots and you won't be able to please everyone. Don't give in to people just because they want their children there because you will end up having way more people at your wedding.