I had a friend who I was very close to in high school. (I'll call her Danica) We became even closer after graduation. Danica has a daughter and a son, and I have two daughters, so we definitely relate very well with each other. However, late 2016 she started switching up on me.
There were no more checking up on me, how are the kids, how's college, nothing. When I graduated from college late August of 2017, no congratulations. No real happiness for me.
No Happy Mother's Day, Happy New Years... it was mind boggling because we used to never be like this, and I know I never did anything to her. She was having troubles with her children's' father and his parents the last couple of times I spoke with her. I assumed she was just busy. People get busy, life happens.. but. ... no one is too busy to say a simple hello every few weeks. She just cold turkey stopped talking to me. She unfollowed me from Instagram almost 2 years ago, and when I asked her why, she said she didn't recall doing that.... I didn't buy that. You don't just accidentally unfollow someone, and then when it's brought to your attention, you don't correct it... it's only after she saw my Instagram profile recently (because I put it that I'm engaged) that she requested to follow me. A whole 2 years later.
Fast forward, I spoke to her briefly this past March via text, asking her what has been up and how come we haven't been speaking with one another. All she says is that she is busy. I sent her this long message about how I feel and everything.. and once again, she just said she's fine, just busy.
I haven't done anything to her!! My sister used to watch her kids briefly in late 2016, because Danica had to go to work, having problems with her babies' daddy. No one to watch her kids. My sister volunteered. Danica would have a shift that would finish at 8pm but would never come back until the sun came up. Can you imagine that?
Kept giving my sis excuses about how she had meetings with her boss... no.. there's no way. This was becoming a daily thing. My sister would cry telling me she can't do this no more, but how she felt bad for the kids... I told my sis to stop watching her kids.. and sadly my sis had to make up the fact that she had a job interview and was no longer able to watch the kids...
I've been nothing but good to Danica and she dismisses me as though we were acquaintances, and we were anything but. Now planning my wedding, I can't help but feel compelled to invite her. If we were on better terms, I wouldn't of hesitated to make her one of my bridesmaids...
Not sure what I should do. I still do care about her and wonder about her and the kids, but extremely hurt about how she has treated me. Suggestions?
