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Inviting a coworker's children?

C, on December 5, 2020 at 11:13 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 12

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I am wondering the etiquette for inviting a coworker's children (one is in high school and one in college). I have never met the children and I'm only having a 100 person wedding. I am inviting children from my family, however. Do I need to invite their children as one is an adult and one will be in high school at the time of the wedding? 4 people for my 1 coworker seems like a lot for my 100 person list

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Latest activity by Jennifer, on December 7, 2020 at 2:17 PM

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Caytlyn · on December 5, 2020 at 11:26 PM
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It’s fine to invite children in circles, like family for example. It wouldn’t be okay to invite some coworker’s children and not others.
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Michelle · on December 5, 2020 at 11:32 PM
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You don't need to invite their children. A college age "child" does not fit into the same category as under 18s. Most people don't invite coworkers unless they frequently spend time together off the clock.
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C · on December 5, 2020 at 11:45 PM
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Thank you! Her daughter will be under 18 - she'll be a sophomore in high school so 14 or 15
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Mrs. Spring · on December 5, 2020 at 11:51 PM
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I agree with this. College age is not a child.
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Michelle · on December 6, 2020 at 12:00 AM
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Agree- college person isn’t a child. Do you spend a lot of time with said coworker outside of the office?
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C · on December 6, 2020 at 12:08 AM
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I do spend time with her outside of the office, but not her children. I'm definitely inviting her and her husband. My main concern is her daughter who will only be 14 or 15 - her son lives at home so I suppose he would stay home with her
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Yasmine · on December 6, 2020 at 9:15 AM
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You don't need to invite their children if you don't want to, you're definitely not obligated to
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Veronica · on December 6, 2020 at 10:41 AM
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You aren't required to invite your co-workers children.
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beee · on December 6, 2020 at 11:29 AM
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A 14-15 year old can stay home alone.
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Judith · on December 6, 2020 at 1:09 PM
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No. Why would you? If your coworker is part of a couple, married or not, he and SO or spouse are invited as a couple. But children are entirely optional.
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Lw · on December 6, 2020 at 5:43 PM
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I wouldn’t specifically invite the children as one is an adult and the teenager should be fine at home. However if they asked to bring the teenager, I wouldn’t be opposed.
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Jennifer · on December 7, 2020 at 2:17 PM
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I think inviting just her and her husband is fine!
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