Inviting a Coworker You Don't Like

Of the coworkers you are close with, have you hung out with them outside work? If so, I think you can reasonably just invite people you are friends with outside of work.


Also, on the other hand, if you did invite him do you think he’d actually come if he doesn’t like you?

Oh geez, that really sucks. I don't think you should invite him if he's made you feel that way. It just sounds like he's jealous or compensating for something. This is your wedding and you should pay attention to you and your FH. Why would you have someone you don't like at your wedding?

I would definitely not invite him. If he's this much of a jerk to you, there's no need for you to invite him to your wedding. Your job might or might not become worse - it already seems pretty bad as is. But at this point I wouldn't cave to this rude coworker!

No I wouldn’t invite him. It’s your wedding and not a time to invite people, “just because“. I bet you wouldn’t buy him lunch let alone a full dinner at your reception Lol!!! Additionally, people who you don’t get along with usually know it. So he probably doesn’t expect to be invited anyway.

Don't invite him.

Okay let’s say he goes and complains to the boss- there are no grounds. This is an outside of work event that other people happen to be invited to. Just don’t bring your invitations into work and hand them out. Mail them as you normally would and it’s his problem for being a jerk. He’s already a jerk to you so if he complains is it really going to change much? I wouldn’t want to pay $50-$100 to feed and entertain him at my wedding. HARD PASS.

I am in a similar situation in a tiny department. I am leaning towards not inviting anyone from work, personally...

This has nothing to do with work. I wouldn’t invite him. He cannot get your in trouble for not inviting you to your wedding. If he does try, I would go straight to HR. Thats workplace bullying (and what he’s doing to you is also workplace bullying) and that’s one thing I don’t tolerate.

I wouldn’t invite him.

Nope. I like my coworkers but my family would take priority so no one got invited due to budget and space restrictions.

No. Do not invite anyone you do not like, who does not like you. Everyone has likely figured that out, and will understand why he is not invited. It is mean to leave out one person in a group, where everyone in the group is much the same, because of some minor trait: he does not dress well, or has a braying laugh, or is awkward in social situations. But this is different, an active mutual dislike. Your boss would be a fool to act based on a social slight perceived by a worker, outside of work. Do what is right. And do not talk about your wedding at work. If you bring it in to the office, you cannot object if he makes it a work issue. If you have the good manners not to talk about a party when people not invited are present, and avoid bringing your personal life in to work , then it makes it harder for him to turn things on you. And actually, it is standard good manners in any social situations not to have conversations about an event people present are not invited to, unless they start the conversation. So not an exception for him. Hope he just does not want to look like a fool in front of everyone else. Uncomfortable, but do not be bullied .

I would absolutely not invite him. He sounds horrible, and I personally would prefer to run the risk of my job getting worse (at which point you could probably go to HR) than risk him making you feel that way on your wedding day. I know its not easy, but he also needs to learn that his actions have consequences.

You don’t have to invite anyone that is mistreating you at all. Invite the people who are there for you and is happy for you and will celebrate your day with you (on a positive note).

Personally, I wouldn't debate for a second and not invite him. This is your special day and you shouldn't have to be worrying what he will do or say. So what if he notices. As far as work, you should probably be speaking to HR anyway if this is really a problem.

I invited 2 of my co-workers and one of them brought the photo booth picture that we took at my wedding and put it up on his desk lol. Still has it up, my two co-workers are my friends as well, we go to happy hour after work sometimes and get together on weekends, etc. My other co workers are nice and all but we don't any relationship outside of work.

Nope, do not invite him!

No, do NOT invite him.