Invites

I guess that would depend on your crowd as well. But you can also try making online invites if you don't want to send out physical ones. I actually sent out electronic save the dates through paperlesspost.com. I was originally not going to send out send the dates but changed my mind.

I don't even know if he wants to do that. It's manly his friends and family that are going.

In my opinion, weddings require invitations. It’s not a word of mouth kind of thing. I understand wanting to save money, but there are tons of other ways to do that. You don’t want to spend thousands on a wedding and skip the part where you actually invite people.

I believe weddings informal/formal should all have invitations.

Most parties I have I do through a Facebook event and invite them that way. My wedding is a little bigger than that and I think it's part of the experience. However, if that's what you want to do, that's up to you. I would just call and remind them closer to the date

I would at least do an electronic invitation in addition to the phonemail - this way you aren't putting people on the spot to RSVP right away. You can make free invitation templates on Canva, and just have them RSVP to an email address or a phone number

View Quoted Comment Then you have people that are not invited on FB that see.

My cautionary tale is my mom missed my cousin's wedding because she was invited over the phone and the date was messed up. There was some confusion about the "last weekend" of the month and she had her trip all planned and booked, then got a call the weekend before she was planning to go asking where she was. She was devastated - and she's very organized so I'm disinclined to blame her, I think it was purely a miscommunication. So, I always advocate for having something clearly written, even if the invitation is just a simple postcard.

I’m all about doing your wedding your way but I think you should have some sort of invitation other than just telling them. Some people need to see something to remember it. Even if you go to a local party store or Walmart and buy a few packs of invite cards, it’s way cheaper but still a written invite.

I recommend some type of invite, paper or electronic. I’m a forgetful person so wedding invitations go immediately up on our fridge so we can remember the date and location.

I just don’t think this is effective. I need things in writing so I can get them in my calendar. If you call me and ask me on the spot, I might say yes without really thinking about it and when I go to put it in my calendar later, realize I’m not available. Then I need the details— where and when. If it’s a phone call and you give me this info I’ll either: jot it down on the closest receipt/paper and potentially lose it OR just try to remember it. Inevitably without this info written down on an invite somewhere, you’re going to get a whole lot of “wait when is it again”s. At the VERY least, I’d do a proper E-Vice.

I originally planned to do this too & posted on here & was convinced into doing invites - honestly check out Vistaprint they are super affordable & run insane sales - it cost us $15 for invites

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I forgot to mention that paperlesspost.com is free. People might still be expecting to receive invitations as it is a wedding. Hopefully, your future FH won't say anything about free invitations.

I would consider doing some form of invitation whether it is just an inexpensive fill in the blank one from party city or an electronic one, or even an e-mail or facebook group! I think people need something to reference important details like time and date and location.

I would send invites. Calling people isn't as reliable since they don't have the information to look back on & confirm.

At least send out e-vites to your guests. They're much more reliable than a word of mouth invitation.

I'd do at least an email or something electronic so people don't forget. I'd be more concerned about the forgetting.

View Quoted Comment No I don't. I set it to a private event and make sure guests can't invite other people

A call is nice but what about save the dates? Or you can have just enough invites printed for how many you need.

I ordered save the dates through Costco. It cost about 15 dollars before tax for 50 cards and envelopes. I would 100% forget about your wedding if all I got was a phone call.