Invites

I personally would send them out now, but I get impatient. Some people wait until two months before the wedding, I believe. I'll probably be sending mine out 2-3 months beforehand.

WAY too soon! Earliest I would do it would be July 1st. If you didn't send save the dates you could get away with having a longer time frame. Maybe make your RSVPs due the same date though so that it gives people time. I personally find the 8-6 week before rule silly as a lot of people have to put in for time off way before then.

We got married September 23 and we sent out out invites at the end of April. We had a daytime adults only boozy brunch wedding dance party which fell on a Sunday. There were 3 weddings that summer in my husband's immediate family, lots of babies being born (including my brother’s) and more than 75% of the guest list was travelling over an hour (up to 16+ hour flights) to get there.

By "etiquette" standards we were too early but our circumstances warranted an early send. People tend to mark their calendars if they intend to join. And lots of people we know are so busy in planning their year ahead with other weddings, vacations, family stuff. So why not send early?

Also we found maybe 25% knew they were for sure attending when we sent out our save the dates in February.

We had 100 attended guests total and we only had perhaps less than a ten RSVP that they couldn't make it.

I would send them out now.

Sending them now is too soon and your RSVP date is too soon. Why do you need a final head count a month before it's even due to your venue?

View Quoted Comment Because I need to order wedding favors. I’m not gonna order 100 favors and then only have 70 people show up. Or not enough favors. And we pay based on how many people are coming, final head count and payment is due 2 weeks before the wedding. I would rather say August 12th for the late people who don’t rsvp until after that, but I’d like to know sooner than later. I don’t see why sending them out now is too soon? 3 months away from the wedding. I’d rather for sure rsvp for a wedding now then 4 weeks before hand.

View Quoted Comment I sent save the date in February. But I feel like I should send them now. We are basically 3 months from the wedding! I just think people
are asking because it’s time to send them out.

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Invitations typically go out 6-8 weeks before the wedding. 15 weeks is super early. Most people don't know their plans this far in advance, so it's going to result in lots of inaccurate RSVPs and many people forgetting to send theirs back.

I think it depends on your situation and knowing your audience. Etiquette is a recommendation not a have to. If you have out of town guests or in your case things you need to accomplish with a final head count, send them out now. Just follow-up with people who haven't responded by your RSVP deadline.

We sent our invites out a little less than 3 months out, with an RSVP date of 40 days out. Our save the dates went out 10 months out. Our guests had their invites for a little over 6 weeks and we STILL had to chase down RSVPs.

We're getting married September 7th and aren't sending our invitations out until the first two weeks in July with an RSVP date for August 15th!

Our wedding is on September 7 and we already sent out invitations last week. We have a few out of town and out of the country guests so to me, 3 months is not too early. I also don't want to feel rushed when the time comes to chase down RSVPs.

My date is September 28th. We aren't sending out invites until mid-July. With a RSVP date of Aug 30th. My final count isn't until 1 week before but I wanted time to chase people down for RSVPs.

I showed FH the mock up of the invites and RSVP cards and he said he had never seen and RSVP card before! He said his family won't know what to do with it. -___-

That's a very early RSVP date, and unnecessarily early based on when your venue needs the final head count. Some of your guests may have difficulty knowing that early whether they'll be able to come or not. Favors are unnecessary.

My wedding is September 28th and I'm sending out invites on July 8th with an August 31st RSVP Date.

View Quoted Comment Can’t change my rsvp date now. Invites already ready to go.