Invites / We are already married?

You invite people to a "celebration of marriage" not a wedding, as you already had your wedding.

You can call it a Celebration of Marriage. That's what my bosses did.

Yep, your wedding is next week. You should definitely tell everyone you are already married, and have a celebration of marriage later.

What PP's said.

Is he really "giving you away" if you're already married though?? Honest question

Yep, you will be a married woman in October. You're having a celebration of your marriage party. It might look odd to people that you're being walked down the aisle though, as at that point you won't be a bride.

Put Celebration of Marriage on your invites, since you are not getting married on that day.

Congrats on your upcoming wedding.

Just be sure to be open and honest with you vow renewal/celebration of marriage in October. For instance writing "We Still Do" or "I Do, Take Two!"

People will be more put off if you try to lie about it being a wedding.

What PP said - it's a celebration of marriage since you'll already be married by next October.

I agree with PP's; I don't have anything new to add except personal experience. FH's friend was already married pre-deployment and invited us to their "wedding" the following year with FH being a groomsman. I remember getting the invitation and asking FH, "...But aren't they married already? What are you supposed to do as a groomsman in this situation?" Then we ended up speculating how the day was going to go whether it would follow a traditional wedding, if it would just be a party that they didn't get to do, we just had a lot of questions. Now, I have no problem attending a big party, I'd just want to know whether or not the couple is getting married or if they're married already so as to not be expecting a beautiful, romantic ceremony and not be blindsided that what I witnessed wasn't "the real deal" without knowing beforehand.

Honestly, people will still most likely come whether or not you title it as wedding or celebration as marriage. People love a reason to party, drink, dance, and mingle. Please don't lie to your guests.

"Celebration of Marriage." Don't lie to anyone if they ask what that means, your guests have the right to know before the vow renewal date that its a vow renewal and not a wedding.

It's not a wedding or "wedding" in October. It's a vow renewal, call it as such. Don't insult those who have had actual courthouse weddings and nothing more.

If you think people are going to be “put off” by this what do you think is going to happen when you stand up in the middle of your reception and announce it to everyone? Use “celebration of marriage” on the invites.

View Quoted Comment This is a pretty solid suggestion OP.
There is no shame in renewing your vows or celebrating your marriage. And a courthouse wedding ceremony is just as legal and valid as a wedding ceremony done anywhere else.

Our wedding was at the courthouse with our parents. We had a vow renewal one year later, and on our invitations we worded it "We joyfully request the pleasure of your company as we celebrate our marriage" We decided to add an insert card with details about the event, and worded it "We will be renewing our vows in an intimate ceremony followed by dinner, drinks, and dancing."

Make sure to note that it is a celebration of marriage or a vow renewal.

You must tell your guests, before they arrive, that you have already married. Have a celebration later, but don't re-enact the trappings of a wedding because what you are having is not a wedding. A LOT of people will side eye you wearing a big white dress and walking down an aisle to exchange 'vows' in a ceremony that doesn't actually accomplish anything.

You are a big girl and you can't have it both ways. You either get a big, fancy wedding or you get married next week. Have a big fancy party with your new husband (who everyone knows is your husband already) but don't re-create something that's already happened.

Bride and groom invite you to celebrate their marriage, January 1st blah blah blah

I have had friends that get married in the courthouse first and then have a big wedding when they have the money for it and no one has second guessed it one bit or asked why doesn't the invite say "celebration of marriage"... WW is the first place that I've seen them say that its "incorrect" to do that. :/

Thank you everyone for your advice.

View Quoted Comment Or you could do whatever you want and wear whatever dress you want and still have it be a vow renewal or celebrating a marriage that people know already happened. Chances are if they don’t agree with the whole thing they won’t (and shouldn’t) come in the first place. I’m assuming the whole point is that for whatever reason you couldn’t do the big shebang the first go round but you still wanted something big and fun with everyone there so it’s just a delayed celebration. Why can’t you wear a fancy white dress?!? CREATE the vow renewal however you want. You CAN have it both ways. Blend the things from a wedding and vow renewal you want. People are too concerned with tearing people down and thinking if someone doesn’t do it the traditional way they are somehow lessening the impact of the traditional way... even though it has no impact on them. So yea, “you are a big girl”... do what you want to do and if you’re being forthcoming about it being a marriage celebration of a marriage that already happened then no one should be able to tell you what that celebration should look like or that you shouldn’t wear what you want. You’re real friends will want to celebrate with you and will be happy that you two are happy. Come on people - build people up, celebrate good things and events in life, don’t get so bogged down in the negative things that don’t matter in the end or when it really comes down to it