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mrswinteriscoming
VIP December 2021

Invites printed but relative now separated from wife? Blank invite?

mrswinteriscoming, on July 7, 2020 at 6:39 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 10

My cousin recently separated from his wife, however we received our wedding invitations which we had printed with his name and his now ex-wife’s (prior to the separation).

Not too sure what to do about his invitation. He is now living with his parents, who are invited to the wedding, and have a separate invitation made up.

Do we:

  1. Give cousin the original invitation and explain it was printed prior to the separation;

  2. Give the invitation printed to cousin’s parents and explain to them that due to what happened with his invite (as above), the invite to the parents includes the son too;
  3. Give cousin his own invitation that is blank (but give his parents their invitation that has their names on it)?

10 Comments

Latest activity by Hanna, on July 7, 2020 at 10:59 PM
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    June 2021
    Dj Tanner ·
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    Well, that’s a tricky one because sometimes people get separated but don’t plan on getting divorced. Do you know if they’re going through with the divorce process and she will actually be his ex-wife, or if they just needed some time to figure things out kind of deal?
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  • mrswinteriscoming
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    mrswinteriscoming ·
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    I am most certain they will get divorced; they were a couple who we knew would be getting divorced years ago (she used to say how he wasn't her soul mate etc) and so far they've both already started talking about getting back into the dating game from what I've been told.

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    Master July 2019
    Hannah ·
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    Is the name just on the envelope or on the actual invite? If it's just the envelope, I would see if I can get a replacement envelope. If it's both, then I would probably go with the blank one.
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    June 2021
    Dj Tanner ·
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    OK wow LOL. In that case I definitely would not send the invitation with her name on it! I think the other two options would be OK but probably the best option would be option 3. As long is her name doesn’t get sent to him it will be fine
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  • mrswinteriscoming
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    mrswinteriscoming ·
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    Just the envelopes, but we definitely can't get it reprinted (ordered from overseas and not worth the hassle for one) hence why I was thinking a blank envelope.

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  • Sarah
    Expert August 2020
    Sarah ·
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    Couldn’t you just hand write his on An envelope. Maybe won’t look as nice but given the circumstances...
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    Master July 2019
    Hannah ·
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    Oh yeah, that's a way easier fix. I thought the names were like preprinted on the RSVP card or something. You could just hand write the name/address if you are mailing it out. Otherwise, no one looks at the front of the envelope anyway.
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  • Gen
    Champion June 2019
    Gen ·
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    I would just handwrite his name on an envelope!

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    Judith ·
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    Write his name on the new envelope. Most people write them, not print them, anyway. No one but you ever sees the addressed envelopes as a group. Who would even know if 3 people have their envelopes done differently than others? The envelope police?
    Hand addressed is considered better than printed. You can always default to that.
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  • Hanna
    VIP June 2019
    Hanna ·
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    This literally happened to us! A couple broke up after our invitations were printed but before we put them in the mail. We simply used an extra blank envelope and addressed it ourselves.

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