Invites for Parent's/grandparent's Friends

If you send a STD you are telling them to expect an invitation!! If you are not inviting don't send them anything.

If you send them a save the date they will expect to be invited to the wedding. Does his mom and grandmother expect their friends to be invited? I’m not sure why parents except their friends to be invited if the bride and groom aren’t close to them.

Don't send a Save the date because then they will expect an invitation. Send a wedding announcement after the wedding.

Wedding announcements are only sent after the wedding and definitely don’t include registry information.

A save the date is telling someone to reserve that date for your wedding because they will be receiving an invitation. They often say "formal invitation to follow." Why would you send them a save the date if you don't want to invite them?

Sending a marriage announcement after the wedding would be the best option here, but you shouldn't in any way mention your registry. That would be extremely rude.

Yes - we had to end up seperating our wedding with wedding arty and nuclear family only and a BBQ 2 weeks after because my FH’s mother had about 60 people she had as mandatory invites who I didn’t want there.

Yeah, a save the date is pretty much a “hey, mark our date on your calendar so you know when to attend our wedding!” I would just let your family do word of mouth but have a talk with them to NOT insinuate that anybody is invited.

Personally, I would never send an announcement or the registry to people not invited to the wedding. I'd be pretty horrified to imply I wanted a gift or would accept one from someone not invited to the party we are hosting for our wedding.

I agree and honestly don't want or am not expecting a gift from any of them! His grandma was just really pressing for it. I am not it in for the gifts, LOL

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I totally get this. Announcements were a common thing back in the day, so I can see where a grandmother would want this. It's totally fine, but something you should send out after the wedding.

Announcements are sent after the wedding and don’t include any registry info. It’s nice your family wants to share the good news but this is appropriate to do after the wedding has already happened.

Don't do it. Next episode...grandma or FMIL is saying "but they're just so EXCITED! They really want to come!" Cue the guilt tripping and family drama, that you don't need.

Tell them they can send announcements or a picture to share AFTER.