Hi all!
This can be a touchy subject, I'm sure, but it has to do with invites and family.
I have a fairly big family, not huge, but still pretty big. I have not spoken to many of my cousins in close to a decade. None of them have even met my FH- let alone seen me since my cousin's wedding 7 YEARS ago.
When I got engaged they came out of the woodwork asking "when's the wedding" and "can I bring someone". Y'all....I wasn't even going to INVITE THEM. Now I'm stuck in this awkward situation and I don't know what to do.
FH and I decided we would not be inviting cousins, long before we even announced our engagement. We are only inviting our immediate families and family members who watched us grow up (think aunts, uncles, family friends). We are also NOT allowing any one to have a +1 unless they are engaged, or married, by the time our Save the Date's go out next month. The only "splurge" on our guest list is a family I grew up being a part of (my best friends since 1st grade- 11 people). So, we are doing everything we can to keep the guest list smaller- still coming in at about 80.
I guess...how do I approach this with my cousins who keep reaching out? FH and I are funding this entire wedding, our families are not helping, and this obviously plays a part. We simply can't afford to invite all of our cousin's. My family is the type to get SUPER offended, for absolutely no reason, so this is tough.
I was thinking of just explaining that because FH and I (but mostly me) have such large families that we could not feasibly afford to invite everyone. But, is that too...tacky to say?
Any advice or suggestions are welcome! As long as they do not include excluding people already on my guest list- that's not going to happen, sorry!
