My best friend has another best friend who's getting married. She wanted to involve me with her friends, and I wanted to because they're great people who I want in my life. I met her best friend last year, and we got along great. Her wedding is coming up this summer, and she invited me to her bachelorette party. I was stoked, and really looking forward to it. I assumed I was also invited to the wedding, and she didn't clarify when she asked me to the party. The wedding guest list has already been made, but another girl was invited to the party the same day I was, and also invited to the wedding. A couple of weeks after inviting me to the bachelorette party, she mailed an invitation to her wedding shower, which is later this month. It all made me feel like I was invited to the bachelorette to help lower costs between everyone, since they're all splitting payments, and also made me feel like I was invited to the shower for gifts.
I brought up my feelings to my best friend, who then told me that wasn't the case, that her wedding guest list is so full, her friend had to cut some people. But the other girl who was invited to the bachelorette party the same day I was got invited to the wedding. I think my feelings are validated, but at the same time, I feel I'm overthinking things.
My best friend offered to talk to her, but I said it's okay. I eventually made plans to travel that weekend after I was told I wasn't invited to the wedding. I still want to go to the bachelorette party, because it feels more like a girl's vacation, but I feel weird for going to the shower when I wasn't invited to the wedding. I'm not sure what I should do.
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