Invited to be Bridesmaid but don't know Bride

I wouldn't do anything until she actually approaches you about it. It's really awkward and pretty immature that she put your BF in the middle. If she does "officially" ask you, tell her that you appreciate her offer and can't wait to celebrate her wedding, but you don't feel comfortable committing to the bridal party since you're starting med school soon. She's allowed to be upset and so is your BF. Their feelings are valid, but that doesn't mean that they're right.

I'd be inclined to decline, saying, "I'm going to be starting medical school in the fall and will be short on both time and money. However, I'm looking forward to being there for the wedding!" You can leave out the part about how you barely know her.

I would honestly do it because it could damage the relationship but I would be forthcoming on letting her know you might not be able to attend everything but you will do your best and be there for her on the big day

What a bind to put you in. I would not do it. Go as a wedding guest. It is great the guys are close, and one day you may be close to the bride. But that could be soured forever if you say yes, and it turns out you disappoint her, or you find her bossy or mean. Very often, couples spouses do not much know or like each other, but get on fine if not pushed too close. Give it time to become close, or not. Don't let her wedding be the time to experiment. She can have someone she is close to, or no one. Better than someone giving off vibes, I don't want to be here, and I need to go do schoolwork. You have a good reason not to commit, with school .

Tell your boyfriend that he's putting you in an awkward situation. He should be the one to say "Thank you but no" if she can't ask you directly. I would think that by Year 3, one would be comfortable telling their boyfriend that it's a weird situation and too much of a financial/time commitment.

Seems weird all around. Is she one of those girls who doesn't have many female friends?

Be honest with her if she asks and say you won’t be able to contribute much time and money will be tight as your starting med school. As previous poster stated, she obviously doesn’t have very many girl friends to ask to be apart of her day. Which I think is kinda sad. Also, maybe it’s about time you put in some effort to get to know her more seeing as it’s your boyfriends best friend and you’ve been with him for 3 years. Not saying you have to or that it’s your responsibility too, just that it seems like a good opportunity to do so. If I was in your shoes I’d probably do it but be up front with her about what she can expect from you. Plus I’m sure your boyfriend would appreciate the gesture.

That's tough. on one hand i see that she's not really close enough of a friend for you to do that but on the other i can see there's potential for her to be.

however i think it sounds more appropriate for you to decline.

It sounds like she may not have a lot of close female friends, perhaps let her know your financial situation and ask her what the financial obligation would be. I would also have an open conversation about your hesitations with your boyfriend and hear his perspective (he may not care and just be doing her a favor or it may really matter to him)

I wouldn't do it, I would much rather attend as a guest if I were in your shoes!

I would have no problem saying "thanks, but no thanks" in your situation based on the fact that the bride is merely an acquaintance AND your upcoming medical school commitments.

This is such a good view of the other side for when brides post here asking if they should include this or that person because of family pressure, an insistence on "even sides", or other reason that don't take actual feelings and relationships into account. Wedding party attendants should be one's nearest and dearest, period.