Invited to Bachelor Party...not on wedding guest list

So it would be weird to exclude him this time. I am not going to ask the BM not to invite him on the trip to Vermont, but I'm just wondering if we are obligated to invite him and his GF to the wedding now? We are almost to max capacity now, and I'm trying to still have a little bit of buffer room in case either of our parents think of anyone else we may have missed on the guest list. What are everyone's thoughts on this situation?

I'd keep him invited to the bachelor party since it sounds like a yearly group trip. I wouldn't invite him or his girl friend to the wedding.

I think generally guys don't see it that tight, especially if it's a trip that they do often.

Personally, I find it strange that these two events are becoming one, especially if the group of guys who all go aren't even close enough to the groom to go to the wedding and the groom usually doesn't go. Kind of sounds like the best man just looked at what was already on his schedule and added the bachelor party to it. I would say if the invite to the bachelor party hasn't been sent out then to take him off the list but you can't do that because the best man has made the bachelor party something that the best man's friend group does anyways which brings me back to my first point. Anyways, I would leave the weekend as it is and leave your guest list as it is. Your best man committed the faux pas, let it play out and if it comes up over the weekend, add the guy and his girlfriend then.

In my experience, guys don't really see this as a big deal.

FH had a few guys at the Bach party that aren't on our guest list. Guys DO NOT CARE! I would just leave it be and let them do and invite whoever they want. They just want to hang out, they do not care about he wedding. I wouldn't invite him to the wedding. I think its hilarious how guys don't even bat an eyelash but a girl would be livid. So dumb!

I think it's fine since it sounds like a yearly trip that they have just decided to dedicate it to FH as a Bachelor party. I was invited to a Bachelorette party one time knowing that I wouldn't be invited to the wedding. Similar to your situation. My friend and I were friends of the MOH and the weekend trip was taking place in Nashville (where we live). Both of us knew the bride but not enough to be guest at her wedding. Neither one of us thought anything of it and just had fun with the BP over that weekend.

@Jeanne - FH is close friends with all the other guys. Of the 9 guys going, 6 are in the wedding, 2 are invited to the wedding but not in it, and this last one is more of an acquaintance who we hadn't planned on inviting. FH has always wanted to go on the trips, but for the 3 years they've been going, it hasn't worked out - one year due to his work schedule, one year due to money, and this past year due to us going on vacation with his family to St. John (where we then got engaged). But I agree with what you mentioned about maybe just inviting them if it comes up over their weekend away.

Also - thanks everyone! Sounds like I was stressing over nothing. I think you're all probably right in that the one not invited to the wedding won't even care.

FH had about 5 guys at his bachelor party that are not invited to the wedding. I told him they shouldn't be invited to the bachelor party but he said it didn't matter. Guys really just like to get together and look at boobies regardless of the reason lol.