Invited late, now can’t go??

Okay so a backstory- I’ve known this girl since high school and I thought we were good friends. But in recent years, since having kids, we have drifted.

My self and my partner of 3 + years were invited to the engagement party in January, I couldn’t attend as my great grandmother had died the day before.

I was then then invited to the bridal shower and was honestly surprised that I was because I hadn’t received an invation to the wedding in the mail. The maid of honour assured me that I was invited. I also could not attend this because I found out last minute that it was a no kids event. I have no family that lives here and all friends were going to the shower.

At this point The rsvp’s were due at the end of June and well into July I still did not have a invitation, she then made a very awkward texting conversation to me letting me know that I was not allowed a plus one. At first I went a long with it but after I realized how much it bugged me, I told her how uncomfortable it made me. I haven’t seen most of these people in years, and my partner is not some fling, we have kids. There is going to be 200+ people at the wedding, it’s not an infamous affair. After a couple weeks she texted me saying some people had canceled and there was now room for my partner.

After i I see her bachelorette party (20+ Guests) pictures online, I text her again. “Hey, am I still invited? I still haven’t received an invitation.” She proceeded to tell me that I would have been invited to the bachelorette (but wasn’t) and got angry at me for asking for a picture of the invite. I told her I had no idea when or where I was supposed to go for her wedding, and asked if she could just send me a picture of it so I knew.

She eventually sent sent me an invitation (6 weeks after RSVP’s were due. I don’t know if she was hoping I’d forget or what is going on. I don’t like having to jump through hoops just to get an invite that I was told I was getting from the beginning.

She is now now having a second bridal shower (for those who missed the first), another engagement “bbq” the following day and the wedding is the week after. I was invited to the bridal shower 2.0 last night along with the bbq. I look online at the invitation and the rsvps went back weeks ago. Again, invited way too late. At this point, we are expected to bring gifts to each one of these affairs, meaning in a 10 day period, 3 gifts, 3 outfits etc.

I have decided i no I no longer want to attend the wedding. She made it difficult for me just to feel wanted and at this point it feels like a cash grab.

Im not good with confrontation and have no idea what to say, any advice is helpful.