Invite via text message

I sent a few via text to those that wouldn't mind not receiving an actual paper one to save time. Most were participating in the Wedding in some capacity.

All were received and RSVP’d yes.

I think it's strange that she would assume one invite would cover it, given you've been out of your mom's house for a long time. I can definitely see why you're offended and I would feel snubbed, too! It's really up to you if you'd still like to attend the wedding, but I personally wouldn't go if I wasn't that close to the bride. However, not attending might hurt your cousin's feelings, so just keep that in mind!

Go if you want to go.

I received one via text with a link to the invite and rsvp online for a co-worker’s Wedding that was 2 weeks before mine.

We were supposed to be in each other’s Weddings, but we both decided that it just wasn’t feasible to do so while planning your own Wedding.

Sounds like she's only inviting you because your mom brought it up and now she's trying to cover her own butt. I wouldn't attend.

That is SO weird to assume you would be covered with your mom's invite, especially since you have your own family & live away from her. I wonder if it was just bad etiquette and they didn't realize what they were doing? I'd think it was tacky for sure, but it probably wouldn't prevent me from going if it was a family member's wedding.

I don't buy her story. Nobody sends an invitation to a single, older lady, and assumes everyone knows that it covers her daughter and family who don't even live in the same house. If that were the case, why weren't the names of all invited on there? Or at least "and Family" so that it would be more clear who was invited? Sounds like you didn't make the original cut on the guest list. But once your mom brought the issue to light, cousin had to cover to avoid embarrassment. So, you've been added to the guest list so that mom can attend.

I'm not sure I'd want to attend, knowing I was an afterthought.

Cristy -- you brought up a great point. My invite was most likely prompted by my mother. Maybe that's why I feel so weird about it.

Send a present and your regrets.

Great idea Cassandra7! I"ll definitely send a gift. Was talking to a co-worker, and he agreed that the text message invite was most definitely prompted by my mom. Thanks to all for your thoughts.

If this was me, I wouldn't go. A similar situation happened to me when my uncle got married in 2016 and me and my sisters were not invited (I was pretty upset about it, since my dad and most people were, but apparently his Italian wife has a huge family and was controlling the list- apparently their guest list was at full capacity) so when I sort of vented to one of my aunts and cousin (one of uncle's sons) about it, then my uncle starts hounding my dad saying he should have known to tell me and my sisters we were invited. I mean come on, you know? I don't live with my dad. I have NEVER lived with my dad. I've lived with my fiance since 2013. For my uncle to think this was an appropriate approach was just ridiculous. So, guess what? ONE WEEK before his wedding, my dad tells me that Uncle has seats available for all of us to attend. REALLY? Where did all these seats magically appear from? I thought they were already at full capacity? To this day, I regret even making a big fuss about it. While everyone had known about his wedding for about 6-12 months and even more than that (and had time to prepare), we found out he was getting married about 2 weeks before. Needless to say, we did not attend his wedding. I don't know what possessed my uncle to behave in that manner, he knows how my dad is, I'm not super close with my dad and I've completely independent from him and have always been. I've gotten over it though, and this uncle is invited to my wedding because I genuinely want him there. Some people are weird. Really weird. A more appropriate thing for your cousin to say was that it was going to be an intimate gathering and that unfortunately there is no more space to accommodate anyone else. But no, she either invited you to avoid embarrassment, to not appear bad, maybe she was really sorry? Who knows. But in any case if it was me, I wouldn't go. It just reminds me so much of the situation with my uncle. All the best, and I'm sorry. I would have been offended too.

Maybe she had a few people say they couldn't make it to the wedding and some spaces opened up so she invited you. I know a lot of discussions on here talk about the "must haves" on their guest lists and a second list of people they want to invite if there's room. Just a possibility. She might've also told you that she thought you'd be covered on the invite because she was embarrassed that she forgot to invite you or wasn't able to at first.