Invite to Bachelorette not Wedding!

Well once I got invited last minute, a friend of mine asked if I wanted to go to someone' s Bach party I didn't know because several of her friends couldn't make it or whatever, just to have more people..I thought it sounded fun, we jsut went out to some local bars..I think it would be fine..on the other hand if this certain person knows you and is not invited to the wedding but is to the Bach that could be awkward. I guess it depends on the people involved though; some may be upset, some not.

I don't think it's okay to invite someone to the bach parties and not the wedding. However, if the MOH extends the invite, that's not the bride.

My wedding is out of state from my home, so there will be many people at my bach party that won't be invited to the wedding- but they know why. They will be invited to the party at our home afterwards though.

I was invited to a bach of a friend I had only known casually for a few months. She knew I was new in town and I had a great time. We are now good friends. If the girl is a casual/work friend I would say it's ok.

I think it depends on the person being invited and the type of bach party involved. From an etiquette standpoint it's not polite, but use your judgment. If it's a casual friend or a friend of a friend who wants to go out because it's just a really fun night out club hopping with a lot of people then it can be okay.

But, if someone goes to the bach party and she isn't on the wedding guest list, I'd make sure the MOH and Co. don't include that person in splitting any costs. They shouldn't be obligated to pay for you or pay for anything involved with the festivities (other than their own expenses or if they offer to buy you a drink or something).

I would say it would be ok to invite someone to the bach party, but not the wedding. I was wondering the same thing with the wedding shower. We are having a smallish wedding and I can't invite all my friends, so I was thinking that I could invite some of my friends to the wedding shower. What do you think???

Noel, I'm not sure about the wedding shower... I see the wedding shower as the place where you would be receiving most of your gifts, and I wouldn't go to a shower without a gift. But then I would feel like I got left out of something since I came to your shower gifted something and cant enjoy the wedding... My thing with the Bach. I'm made it clear that my BMs not ask anyone help other then from myself or my mom if it comes down to it. So the guests will just be coming for a big party with no strings attached. A shower I kinda see some attachments.

If a good friend of someone invited them to the Bach party and not the wedding, that's good reason to be offended. But if they are just an aquaintance, maybe they'll understand.

However, if the bride values the relationship, it better not to take the chance that the friend will understand why they are invited to the Bach and not the wedding - invite the friend to both.

Those invited to a Bridal Shower, and a Bachelorette Party, should also be invited to the wedding.

It depends on whether or not you know the girl. If you do I agree 100% with Kathy

I was invited to the bachelorette party of someone whose wedding I was not invited to. Honestly, I thought that was pretty strange (which is probably the most polite word for it).

When a couple of people offered to have bachelorette parties for us, we limited the guest list to people who were at least invited to our at-home reception. They would have been invited to the wedding as well, if we had been able to have it locally. However, we seriously limited the number of people we invited to a ceremony held at midday on a Tuesday eight hours from where we lived, for their own benefit.

I also agree that those invited the Bridal Shower, and the Bachelorette Party, should also be invited the wedding. Unless you don't know the person & your BM's invite them just to go out & party. I'd be a bit offended if I was only invited to one and not the other.

I had two ladies who were invited to the bachelorette party and not the wedding but they were sort of add-ons by my friends who were invited.One I met about a year ago and the other I met about a month before the bachelorette party so its safe to say they are not close friends but we got alone well. I don't think they expected to be invited to the wedding since the invites had already gone out months before but they were very happy to celebrate my last night out as a single gal with me in vegas. I say if your friends invite them its okay but if you invite them maybe not

I am inviting everyone to my bach party and hardly anyone to the wedding. They all understand I want a small wedding with immediate family only.

You can do it, but 90% of the time, you will get talked about. But, then again... you'll get talked about anyway, so just do whatever you want to! LOL

It depends on the bach. party, if they are expected to pitch in for a limo or a gift, or something costly like that, then I don't think it's a good idea if they aren't invited to the wedding, on the other hand, if it's something like bar hopping, there isn't a huge issue.

Personally if I was invited to the bach party, and not the wedding (which I have been before) I wouldn't go to the bach. party. everyone's oppinions are so different on this, I don't know if there is a a 'proper' way.

Michelle your right everyone views are different.

No one is required to cover any costs. I told my BMs that if need some help let me know and not to ask anyone else. I don't know the plans but the only cost anyone has to cover as a guest is if they decide to go to the bar or something.

I love Shica's Response!

Lol WW should make a like button On comments

Honestly I have had friends ask me can they come to the party only. And if it was ok if they couldn't make it to the reception that they would enjoy the girls night out away from the kids and the husband. I didn't see anything wrong with a "girls night" thats easier on them they don't have to buy gifts or be committed to coming to a 5 hour ceremony and reception but can still celebrate you getting married and have a good time. I would say something like all my seating for the wedding is full but I would love for you to come out and have a night out with us. If they want to they do if they don't thats ok to.