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Invite to a church wedding, but not reception?

Marilyn, on September 24, 2016 at 7:45 AM

So we both know a lot of people between friends, family, and coworkers. We set our budget and decided to have a church wedding and a reception at a banquet hall. The issuse is that we can't spend over our budget, which will allow only 100 people. A family friend says that it's not good etiquette to invite a lot of peole to the wedding, but not all to the reception. We'd love for all of our wedding guest to attend both events, but it's financially too much! So our reception is just for family and very close friends. Help me out!!! Is our decision good etiquette or not?? Should we just invite those guest attending both??

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Laura · on September 24, 2016 at 12:24 PM
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Marilyn, thank you for being gracious about the advice given. Sometimes people lash out when the advice isn't what they want to hear, and that doesn't go well. But you're taking it really well. Are there ways you can cut other costs to help stretch your budget more? And can you think of ways to come up with some extra money to cover the extra guests?

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Ivette&Trevor · on September 24, 2016 at 12:51 PM
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It's rude! Invite them to all the events or none at all.
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Marilyn · on September 24, 2016 at 2:13 PM
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Ok.. I thought my pic was the default pic that I put up.. I'll look into it. Thanks WWLaura!
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RiceAndRoses · on September 24, 2016 at 2:19 PM
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It's so rude not to invite people to both. My mom was invited to a wedding---only the ceremony and not the reception because of the budget---she went to support them, but still talks about how offended she was.
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Frances · on May 15, 2018 at 12:59 PM
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Due to logistics I was going to downsize my wedding ceremony but invite everyone to the reception, Would that still be rude? I want these people to know they mean lots to me
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Mim · on May 15, 2018 at 1:03 PM
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Your best bet is to rework your reception plans. Have your wedding at a bone meal time, 2 or 8pm, and then have a cake and punch reception at the church. Cake for all with simple finger foods; veggies and dip, cheese and crackers, fruits, and deli trays with rolls
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Mim · on May 15, 2018 at 1:05 PM
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Sorry didn't realize this is an old thread!
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Missy B · on May 15, 2018 at 5:50 PM
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If you cannot invite them to both, then do not invite at all.
Cut out co workers that are not really friends, cut out friends of parents and the parents guests as chances are...they are not your peeps. Cut out distant relatives and go from there.
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Cassidy · on May 16, 2018 at 7:35 AM
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It’s rude to invite them to just the ceremony and not the reception. Some people will decline your reception. Only invite those you can afford. You can have a celebration later post wedding brunch or something

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Eva · on July 15, 2018 at 9:11 PM
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The reception is for the guests. Which most of them will probably judge every single moment of it. People are so judgmental. Invite whom you please to your reception, who care if it is rude? At the end of the night it’s all about you and your husband. Who cares about what people say and who will have hurt feelings. Don’t live your life for the approval of others.