Invite Responses

Are people sending in RSVPs with a maybe written on them? Are you asking for a commitment before your deadline passes? It looks like you're not getting married until July, so I'm confused at why you need to know their answer now, that's still 7 months away.

After your RSVP deadline passes, for those you haven't heard from, just send them a reminder that if we do not hear from you by *Insert Date* (Ideally a week or so before final numbers are required), then you will be counted as not attending. For those who haven't given a meal choice, same thing, but put whatever dish you want.

Is the date of your wedding correct? If you aren't getting married until July, I'm not terribly surprised you aren't getting responses yet, because it's so early, and people don't want to RSVP and then something they cannot get out of comes up closer to time. Generally, you send invitations 6-8 weeks ahead of time, with an RSVP date a week before you need final numbers (to chase down all the people who still don't manage to RSVP)

There’s still time, you can always kindly remind them to RSVP if they haven’t replied close to the due date.


The other day I was talking with some friends and one of them was talking about her cousins wedding. She was stressing because he hasn’t replied and his answer was “I’m your cousin, of course I’m going, do I have to RSVP?” Sometimes they might think it’s not necessary to actually reply or that it’s obvious they’re going and it was just sent as a “formality for other guests”. Just double check with your guests

If your wedding isn’t until July 2022, it’s waaaaay too early for invites to be sent out, let alone to receive RSVPs. Assuming you are not having a destination wedding, invitations should go out approximately 6-8 weeks before your wedding, and RSVPs should be due about 2 weeks before the wedding.

Our wedding is in July. Save the dates are going out next week and invitations mid-May. It’s way too soon to ask for rsvps.

If your wedding is truly in July of next year, then you sent invites waaaay too soon. And the problems you are experiencing are exactly why invites should not be sent until 2-3 months before the wedding day. People simply can’t commit that far in advance so you get a lot of “maybes” or “probablys.” Realistically, your final RSVP due date should be 4-6 weeks before your actual wedding date, or whenever your vendor(s) require a final guest count.

Invites were sent way too early. You should send save the dates 6-12 months ahead as soon as the venue is locked in to give guests a heads up. Invites should not be mailed before 8 weeks at the earliest. 6-8 weeks is the standard for a reason. Replies are not due back until 3 weeks before the wedding. No one knows what their schedule is before 4 weeks nor can they commit that early. You don’t start catching up with late replies until after the mail is collected on the due date.

Then count them out and ohhhh well! No one has time to have additional stress like that. If you have already extended yourself and it’s still a maybe or idk, send a response that their invitation is now virtual and you love them the same. Something like that. I’m moody now reading this cause I’m in the same boat and it’s regarding just the darn save the dates 🤣🤣🤣 girlllllll good luck! But I’m cutting the water off on our guest list.