Invite Out of Town guests and fmil to bridal shower?

I would just send it. She knows where it will be and just wants to send a gift and share in your joy.

I would send it. She'll feel included, even if she doesn't give you a gift.

I think if you don’t invite them, especially where the cousins to see if Ikelea asked, they will feel excluded. Perhaps you could have your hostess put a note in their invitation saying that you know they won’t be able to come, but you wanted to make sure they were included. Some people get very excited about giving gifts, and for others, being invited to smaller events makes them feel included, even though they can’t go. Don’t take that away from them, especially since they have asked about it.

I would send the invitations.

If she asked to be told when it would be then it would be rude not to send an invite. If she hadn't then I wouldn't though

I would just send an invite to be nice! And let them know you don't expect them to come, but wanted them to be included anyway. You could tell her you don't want a gift, but you'll text her pictures so she feels included?

I would still invite them

Thanks for the feedback! So here’s another question then: FH’s aunt (FMIL’s sister and mom to the cousin that requested the info) speaks to them daily and will be flying in for the wedding, as well. Should I send HER an invitation, too? She didn’t ask but I know it’ll come out that her sister and daughter both got invitations.

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I would send her an invite as well. If you already KNOW she isn't coming, what's the harm in sending one more invitation? I think the note that someone mentioned above would be nice (that you know they cant make it due to the distance but want them to know they were thought of and included). A small gesture like that can make people feel good and all it costs you is an extra invitation.