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June 2016

Invite or not invited

Destiny, on January 22, 2020 at 6:36 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 8
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I’m getting married this June at the courthouse I went wedding dress shopping for my courthouse outfit this passed weekend with one of my bridesmaids and my co worker that’s was invited to my wedding
So I found my dress to get married in my fiancé only wish is that he wanted to be surprised and didn’t want to see anything before our wedding date
So my co work without my knowledge or consent shared all my wedding dress pictures on her snap and social media platforms by the time I got to work Tuesday everyone knew what my wedding dress looked like and my fiancé did too by the end of the day I found out by two people that follow her snap and they came in the office saying you married you engaged note me and my fiancé was mailing invitations and hand delivering to people so it can be an element of excitement and class So I confronted her about it she apologized and said I didn’t know how he was when I texted message your dress photo to ppl I was even more upset now cause she texted message my photos and shared my wedding dress photos and my invitations so now everyone knows what my invitations look like and my wedding dress I asked her to take it down but now it to late the damage is done So now I don’t want the dress anymore or wear it and I have to go dress shopping all over again But my question is should I let her come to my wedding or not and what other advice can you give I need help

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Latest activity by Cassandra7, on January 22, 2020 at 11:54 AM
  • Kristen
    Master November 2020
    Kristen ·
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    I don't think that's a reason to uninvite her. But all that also depends on if you want to remain friends with her. At the end of the day it was an honest mistake. People make mistakes she probably wasn't thinking about it. You still have time but I would just go dress shopping again this weekend and find a new dress or just keep that one because honestly he's probably going to forget and he hasn't seen it on with you all done up and everything like that. I would just go online and look at some dresses you may potentially like and just try on a few more or worst case scenario pretend to go dress shopping and tell him that you bought another one and then he will forget about this one. I totally understand why you are upset and it was not her business to share the picture but if you uninvite her to the wedding that's going to cause drama and that's going to be a friendship ending move so that's really all about what kind of relationship do you want to have a Turf from this point forward.
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  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
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    Your wedding is 17 months away. You don’t need to make this decision for quite a while. Unless you explicitly told them before going shopping no to post photos, I don’t think this incident is a reason not to invite her. Sure, it sucks, but some people are just ignorant when it comes to etiquette. I would see how your friendship develops over the next year before deciding.
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  • Mrs. Bubba
    VIP September 2019
    Mrs. Bubba ·
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    I had my Wedding not only shared on Facebook by my Cousin (MoH1️⃣) and Facebook lived without my permission.
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  • Mrs. Bubba
    VIP September 2019
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    I am still ticked that these events transpired.


    You need to really take the time to reflect on this to see if you still want to share your day or details with her.


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  • Mrs. Bubba
    VIP September 2019
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    I really don’t understand why some ADULTS feel the need to share other people’s news.
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  • D
    June 2016
    Destiny ·
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    Lol now I don’t feel so alone I told her in the car I want to keep it a secret and that’s why I have been wearing my engagement ring before we went shopping
    So now I don’t know if it was a mistake or on purpose
    I wish she would have asked before but I definitely won’t be a friendship no more I don’t think I’m sorry the same think happen to you
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  • Sherry
    Master September 2019
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    I don't think you should not still invite her, I would however be very careful with anymore details you share with her. I would still have her remove the pictures. Your wedding is so far away, no one is going to remember what it looked like. If you feel that strongly about it, maybe go back to the dress shop and exchange the dress for another one, alone. I would also make sure that you inform anyone ahead of time that this or that shouldn't be shared online. I am sorry this happened. I would be so upset since that is literally the only thing my husband was so adamant about, not seeing the dress.

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  • Cassandra7
    Super August 2006
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    Do you want her in your life? She doesn't seem to have any concept of your wishes or your privacy, which would make me constantly nervous to be around her.

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