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Invite officiant to the Reception?

Arielle , on October 17, 2017 at 11:32 PM Posted in Planning 0 34

Is it normal to invite your officiant to the Reception? And if so, does he do the pray before dinner?

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Latest activity by Tracy, on October 18, 2017 at 11:55 AM
  • Rachelxoxo
    Savvy October 2018
    Rachelxoxo ·
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    Yes you should invite the officiant to the reception. And it's up to you whether you'd him to pray before dinner

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  • RustyTheDog
    Dedicated December 2017
    RustyTheDog ·
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    Yes, you need to invite your officiant. And the SO of the officiant, if applicable. The officiant is a VIP! He/she married you! We aren't having a prayer again, but you certainly could.

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  • Malwen107
    VIP October 2018
    Malwen107 ·
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    We are inviting ours. She is a non-denominational celebrant, and will just be treated as a guest at the reception.

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  • Mrsbdg
    Champion August 2017
    Mrsbdg ·
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    My officiant stayed for our reception. We had a secular wedding and didn't do praying or anything.

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  • BlueHenBride
    Master March 2017
    BlueHenBride ·
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    Yes, you invite the officiant to the reception. Mine stayed, but we actually asked a family member to give the blessing at dinner, so our officiant just sat back and enjoyed the party.

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  • Future Mrs M
    Super June 2018
    Future Mrs M ·
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    We plan to invite our officiant.

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  • melanie
    Master August 2017
    melanie ·
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    We invited ours

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  • Susan
    VIP December 2017
    Susan ·
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    Yes, they and their SO (if applicable) should be invited. As for the prayer before dinner, that's up to you

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  • Tamara
    Super October 2017
    Tamara ·
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    Since you asked this question, I wont make another thread.

    Do you need to invite your priest to the rehearsal dinner/ wedding reception if the ceremony is performed at a holly place instead of the reception site?

    thanks guys! sorry to butt in, lol

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  • K squared
    Super October 2017
    K squared ·
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    Yes, we invited ours to both rehearsal dinner (since she was rehearsing with us) and the reception. She wasn't able to go to the rehearsal dinner but did go to the reception. We didn't have a prayer/or blessing before dinner.

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  • Shinee
    Expert September 2018
    Shinee ·
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    We extended an invitation to our officiant and significant other when we signed our contract but he stated he was not planning to attend the reception.

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  • Anne
    VIP October 2017
    Anne ·
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    We certainly invited, and she kindly declined. She was thankful for the offer, but know how hectic receptions can be and she wanted us to spend it with our loved ones.

    Definitely invite though!

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  • Anne
    VIP October 2017
    Anne ·
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    PS We had already planned to have FH's uncle give a blessing before dinner

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  • Spaghetti
    VIP November 2018
    Spaghetti ·
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    We are getting married at my childhood church. I'll invite the priest to our rehearsal dinner and reception. If we use one of the current priests at the church he probably won't attend the reception because they have mass shortly after our ceremony. However I might ask the deacon to perform the exchange of vows for us because I know him personally and he would be invited to both the RD and reception as well.

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  • kel.p
    Savvy October 2019
    kel.p ·
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    We plan to invite ours, but we've also known him for a while as he's been the pastor for FH's church that he's gone to since he was a kid.

    Not sure about praying, we probably won't be doing that. It's a personal choice.

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  • Fall bride 17 - 2.0
    VIP October 2017
    Fall bride 17 - 2.0 ·
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    I invited both my Pastor and his wife, was I supposed to give them an actual invitation though!? We are having our rehearsal dinner right at the church and made sure I told our Pastor.

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  • Sarah
    Super September 2017
    Sarah ·
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    Our officiant charged an extra $150 on top of his normal fees for the rehearsal so we did not invite him to that. He told us during our first meeting he usually hung around for the first half of cocktail hour and then he would leave. And on our wedding day, he stayed to congratulate us once again, take a picture, and chat about our moving plans for a few minutes. He was gone within 15/20 minutes after the ceremony.

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  • Bride2Be2018
    VIP January 2018
    Bride2Be2018 ·
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    I'm going to hop on this thread and ask some more questions about this because I'm also curious. So does this also apply if you never met this person before you hired them for your ceremony? If you do invite them to your reception do you send them a formal invitation in the mail as you do your their guests? Did all of you also invite them to your RD?

    ETA: @Sarah so did you have to pay a whole meal/drink for him because he stayed for part of it but not all?

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  • Michael V
    Michael V ·
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    It's nice to be invited to the rehearsal dinner and the reception but I always graciously pass. If your officiant is staying for the reception dinner and you want them to perform a benediction please communicate that clearly with them. Best wishes!

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  • KatieMBY
    VIP January 2018
    KatieMBY ·
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    @Bride2Be I'm in the same boat, actually. I don't know my officiant personally. I hired him through a company and after reading this thread I will extend the invite to he and his wife to attend the reception, however I will not be extending the invite for the rehearsal. It was an extra $175 just for the rehearsal, and we have a month & day of coordinator handling that.

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