Invite Mom to venue selection appointments, or not

I'm not sure if I have any correct answer except for maybe ask your FH if he would like your mother to come and let his answer be the deciding factor.

I wouldn't invite her, especially if your FH is so excited. Let it be a special day thing for the two of you.

It depends on what FH wants and what your relationship is like with your mom. I'm very close to my mother, so I can't imagine doing much without her. Also like getting her perspective as a lot of times she sees things I might not always think about.

I would ask FH. We agreed we wanted both Mom's to attend to keep things equitable.

I recommend going with just your FH so the two of you can enjoy this process together. Looking at venues together can be fun and be a bonding experience as you discuss your wedding vision together.

We didn't bring any parents, even though both sides are contributing something.

Thank you for the input! I had an idea of just the two of us going and, when we have it narrowed down, maybe scheduling an appointment where both moms can join us and see where we have selected. Will discuss further with FH.

We looked at venues just the two of us, then brought our parents to our favorite two for their opinions.

It sounds like you are thinking about everyone's feelings here. Do you think your mom would be hurt if she wasn't included? Maybe you could do the first visits as a couple and if you want your mom (and his?) to see the venue before you make a final decision- or take them afterwards for a tour-all will feel involved. I do think you should let your mom know that although this is your second wedding, it's your FH first and you both have a vision for the day.

I really like that idea

We did all of our venue selection just he and and I. It was fun and was a bonding moment for us.

I brought my mother and sister (MOH) along for the tasting of our final caterer because my DH had strep.

I would definitely recommend asking your FH. My FH and I made the decision on our own to put the deposit down for our venue. I talked with my parents about what questions I should ask and what I should look for, and then my FH and I went alone to look and decide (which ended up being the only venue we toured). After we had the venue picked out, we took our parents (both his and mine) to a tasting there and gave them a tour of the menu. It was really nice and I felt like my parents felt pretty good about the fact that he and I were able to handle things on our own.

Totally up to you, but personally I'm happy we did it with just the two of us. After we picked the venue we invited our parents to one of the tastings and stopped by the venue afterwards so they could see it. They were thrilled with that.

I am in the same boat as you. Second time bride and first time groom. In my case...no parents in the decision making...period. They are not paying for anything and we both have agreed that we do not want the influence, pressure or negativity about our choices if they disagree.

I would ask FH also. I think it'd be nice for the two of ya'll to do this together then when you narrow it down or want to send in a deposit maybe just show your mom pics and look at the website with her. My parents are paying for our wedding, so we have included them in everything.

We went alone and then shared the venue once it has already been secured. You don't want anyone's opinions getting in the way of your vision first wedding or not ..

In my opinion, the fewer opinions, the better. Ask your FH. This is his wedding, too, and since he seems excited about planning and is his first wedding, he should partake in the excitement of planning and choosing a venue. Your wedding is as large or formal as the two of you - not your mother - want it to be. I'd go with your FH and share after you made a decision, or share your top venues but the decision is still yours.

I wouldn't schedule around her or include her - only because you said her opinion may be different than your FH.

No. Go with just FH to your first visit at prospective venues.

My mom is doing two venue tours this week for me, because i'm not able to go.

This weekend we'll tour two venues i've already toured.