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Invite list issues

Madilyn, on January 28, 2020 at 7:19 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 3

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I have 21 cousins. I don't want 5 there, I only care if Six show up, and the rest I don't really care either way. My FH has a grand total of 6 cousins. Our goal is to invite less than 100 people, if we invite all of our cousins our number goes just over 100. I want his cousins there for sure, but didn't plan on inviting any of mine. I am torn on starting drama for having his cousins but not mine, or having a bigger wedding than my FH and I wanted. Any thought helps!

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Latest activity by Jennifer, on January 29, 2020 at 1:46 PM

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Arayia · on January 28, 2020 at 8:42 PM
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Hey, I had the same issues when we started planning our wedding. Our goal was 50 ppl but we went over that a little. My MOH told me to look at my call log n see who has called or checked up on us in the last year. Those are the ppl we invited...that included friends and family. Weddings can get really expensive quickly only invite those who are truly happy for you family included. Try not to lose sight of what you guys want it’s one day to have it your way
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Mandee · on January 29, 2020 at 9:34 AM
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Our list was broken down into 25 for each set of parents and 50 for us. The guidelines I imposed on those invites were:

1. If We (the couple) haven't spoken to them in more than five years, not invited

2. If one half of the couple has never met them (we've been together ten years), not invited

3. Under 18, not invited

4. If they are known to cause drama, not invited

It's helped tremendously!
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Jennifer · on January 29, 2020 at 1:46 PM
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If you're not close with any of your cousins, the only way to cause as little drama as possible would be to invite none of them. If you invite some and not the others, you'll cause a lot more drama than it is worth!
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