Invite help!

Yes. That is common these days to have a small ceremony and a larger reception afterwards but it must state that. Etsy has many invitations worded perfectly for that especially for venue size.

I would try to avoid doing this! I would probably be offended if I was a guest and didn't make the 'cut' for the ceremony, and only got the reception invite. You can get around this debacle by making the ceremony wedding party and immediate family only. Otherwise you are bound to have hurt feelings

View Quoted Comment Do you know if there is a way of using this app to do separate invites? I'd rather not spend more money on new invites lol. My wedding was pushed back from the 20th of this month to September 25,2021. Trying to save some money for the house we are trying to buy lol

I agree with Hanna unless you’re doing a family only ceremony. Someone’s feelings are definitely going to get hurt.

View Quoted Comment Yeah it is our immediate family and the family of the bridal parties that we are close with but since it got pushed back everyone already knows what they were invited to and they all understood or at least said they did.

It really depends. If it's a private ceremony with only immediate family and maybe 1 or 2 of your closest friends and then a larger reception, people will usually be more ok with that than if they find out that the majority of the guests were there for the ceremony and you were part of the small portion who was not.

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That I do not know but I would just send invites but if you already invited people it may not be taken well if you uninvite them. You do not have to buy from etsy but you can look up the wording.

View Quoted Comment Noooo I wouldn't and couldn't do that to someone. I'm just looking for a reminder invite thing I guess lol

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I was talking with some friends this week and they agree no sense in sending a new invitation for a postponed event lol. I referenced Etsy maybe for wording but I think an email update would work.

Venues should be chosen with numbers of likely guests in mind.


Unless you are doing an intimate ceremony with just family in attendance and then a big party for everyone else (as some others have queried) then this is a huge etiquette no no.
Some guests will only attend either the ceremony or reception but even then they might not actually disclose that to you. But, not inviting guests to one part of the big day (or even asking them which they plan to attend) will come across as rude.

I would try to avoid doing this... can't you find another ceremony space to accommodate everyone?

Personally my favorite part of going to weddings is seeing the ceremony, so I'd be pretty disappointed to have missed that, especially with the reason being that the chosen venue was just too small.

No, it is very rude to invite some people to the ceremony only or the reception only. You need to find a venue that holds everyone, and hold the ceremony at the reception venue if you have to in order to accommodate everyone. Or else cut the reception guest list to only those attending the ceremony.

Thank you everyone for the help! I believe I found the way to let everyone know! Thanks again!

Let’s get real here. With Covid, lots of stuff got messed up and people just have to not get offended if they’re not invited to ceremony. One invitation would say please celebrate our marriage at a reception at this place. I would add a detail card for those invited to ceremony especially if it’s close family and friends only. I would word ceremony as please join us for our cozy wedding ceremony here. But there shouldn’t be all in one.