Invite Help: My dad and stepmom are getting divorced

Can you hold off on sending the STDs to those step-relatives? Maybe not send them at all. When it's time to mail the invitations, you can decide if you want to mail to them.

I would say that if you were just inviting them out of respect of their marriage and not because you really needed or wanted them there then don't invite them.

I would probably invite my Step Mom if you still wanted her to be there depending on the circumstances. I would however talk to your dad and see if he feels comfortable with her being at the wedding.

Sorry you have to go through this...

If this were me i would talk to your dad see what he advises he will know there relation better than anyone and you know her ask her about her family but i would definetly still invite her

Thanks for your responses! I did ask my dad and he thinks they should still be invited. I think he's banking on them not coming because they are out of state, but I just don't see the point of the invite.

I think holding off on sending the STDs to that group is probably the best way to go at this point. Thankfully I'm not talking about invitations!

I didn't have this exact situation, but there were some guests who didn't get STDs because I wasn't sure about budget. When I found I could invite them, they got the invite (despite not getting the STD). So, I think you have time to wait and see how that pans out.

Who's the family? Is it your stepmom's siblings/spouses and their kids? (Aka aunts/uncles and cousins by marriage?) You're not close to them....is there any reason you think they would need or want to be invited? Like, have you spent holidays and such with them? Just wondering.

Agree with the other ladies - hold off sending those STDs and I think when it's invitation-time, you'll have a better idea of what to do.

Sorry you're going through that, are you close to your stepmom? Divorce sucks.

I was in a similar situation, we got engaged about 1 1/2 years ago and had planned on inviting a large amount of my step-father's family, A few months later, my mom told me they were getting a divorce so I didn't invite any of them. FOr you it depends on a few things, first do you and your step-mom have a good relationship? If not, then I wouldn't worry about inviting her at all. If you do have a good realtionship with her, I would just sit down and have a heart to hear with her, she may not even want to come just so that there isn't any drama.

Either way, at 13 months, you don't even need to send out STD's for atleast another month, so there is some time for things to settle down.

I would still send them. Im not close to my stepdad's family AT ALL but even though my mom died 3 years ago, I still invited them. Only 1 is coming, and she's the only one I am close to.