Invite Fh's brother's widow?

My FH's brother passed away unexpectedly October 2018 at 43 and its been a difficult time. His kids and widow no longer talk to or acknowledge the family. We saw his 15 year old daughter and she rolled her eyes at us when we smiled and waved. I know the widow says my FH's family should have been there more but the parents are well into their 70s, my FH (30) works 3rd shift full time and no one else drives. The hospital was 2+ hours away. She moved in a new boyfriend less than a year after my FH's brother passed.



I mentioned including her on our guest list and the kids but now my husband is totally against it. There's so much tension over a year later. I used to work with her, never close with her kids though. They live right next door to FH's family. I get the discomfort but isn't it weird not to say something? I totally understand about her bringing the boyfriend and how that would upset people. We even said before she moved the new guy in she probably wouldn't go or even acknowledge us. Any ideas on if we should send an invite or say anything? Too touchy of a situation for me to know what to do.