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Katie
Dedicated October 2021

Invite bestie to minimony?

Katie, on September 12, 2020 at 12:42 PM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 8
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I’m in a bit of a dilemma. FH and I are getting married in my grandparents backyard in 3 weeks (yay!) It’s an Immediate family only minimony due to covid and My grandmas health declining. We’re still planning to have a big reception next year with our whole guest list and wedding party etc but just having siblings, parents, and grandparents at this small ceremony. We’re just having our siblings stand up with us and no formal wedding party or procession. But I am really bummed about my best friend not being there. She was the first person I even told about the idea for a minimony, she FaceTimed me while I tried on dresses, and just had been so supportive. I want to invite her but I also don’t want to offend anyone not invited after explicitly stating it was immediate family only. FH says I should invite her but I’m more worried about my other bridesmaids and not hurting their feelings. Any advice?

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Latest activity by Susan, on September 12, 2020 at 6:38 PM
  • Kristen
    Master November 2020
    Kristen ·
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    I would invite her. I am having a minimony not due to COVID and I have a lot of close friends but one bestie that is my ride or die. She will be my maid of honor. I think if your heart is to have her there (my mom passed so if there was anyone I want by my side the day it is my bestie) then you should invite her. You can tell the other bridesmaids in advance if you want to clear the air or not. They have to know she is your closest friend.

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  • J
    Master October 2022
    Jana ·
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    Regardless of the guest count, I would feel horrible if I couldn't invite my best friend to witness the ceremony.
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  • Megan
    Expert November 2022
    Megan ·
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    I mean if she is one you are closest too, I would invite her, I would hope others understand with the situation we are in it's not possible to invite everyone.


    I plan on having a mini ceremony too, just parents, grandparents,sibling and their kids. I wanted to have my best friend there but she is out of state and would have an infant/less than 1 year baby so it would be too much for her to take on for a short ceremony.
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  • Yasmine
    Master October 2020
    Yasmine ·
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    I would invite her!
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  • Katie
    Dedicated October 2021
    Katie ·
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    I have one close friend in mind that might be hurt. I'm not sure how to approach that. But I think you guys are right I should invite her. I know we're having another ceremony and everything next year and she'll be by my side then but I just really feel in my heart like I need her there on this day too.

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  • Alexis
    Dedicated October 2020
    Alexis ·
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    I would also say that just because she isn’t blood related doesn’t mean she isn’t family. Invite her if that’s what is in your heart. There will be 7 of us at our small ceremony; my dad and 5 friends.
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  • Mrs. Spring
    Master April 2021
    Mrs. Spring ·
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    I recommend you invite her and just have her practice social distancing with you all and bc of your granny's health.
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  • Susan
    Master March 2015
    Susan ·
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    Invite her!. I also ended up with a mini emergency wedding due to my fathers failing health. I could only fit so many people in a hospital room (small room at that). My 2 BFF"s showed up in their dresses, along with my cousin (MOH) so dad could get the realest experience, 14 people including us and my siblings, nephew, FG and her parents and the minister. When the big day rolled around 2.5 months later, everyone knew and nobody cared.

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