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Devoted August 2022

Invite addressing for +1

Bride2Be, on September 26, 2021 at 4:15 PM Posted in Planning 1 8
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We will be sending out our save the dates right after the new year and finalizing our list in November. For the guests who have recently gotten into relationships, how do I handle their addressing on the envelope? Because let’s be honest, not all relationships last and of course I hope they do but in the case they break up, I don’t want them to just bring a random +1. Do I JUST address the STD to the one person and if they’re still together when the invite time comes, THEN include the +1 or do I have to include a +1 from the get go?


Do I include that persons name or do I just say so and so and guest? Or can I JUST invite the one person I want to invite?
I’m just planning ahead and a few of my childhood friends just got into new relationships a few months ago so they’re just starting. Not like they’re married or been dating for years so not sure what the etiquette is for that. For reference, our wedding is in August of 2022.

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Latest activity by Jacks, on September 26, 2021 at 8:54 PM
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    Becky ·
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    For the STD just send it to the person. For the invitation, if they're dating someone, you would address to Ms. Jane Smith and Mr. John Doe. If they aren't dating anyone, but you wish to extend a plus one to them, you address to Mr. John Doe and Guest.

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  • Laura
    Super September 2020
    Laura ·
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    I invited all my adult singles with a plus one. I don't discriminate about how long a person has dated and I'd like them to have company when they attend. That's how I handled it. But I didn't invite any people that I wasn't close to - or whom I wouldn't support in a new relationship. That said I wouldn't put this gf or bf on the save the date. But I would be counting all my singles as parties of 2 when sending save the dates. So, Mark gets a save the date but I consider him +1 for the invites. So Mark equals 2 guests. Then decide if you're over inviting for your budget. Remember, all our relationships were new at one point. Why not think happy thoughts and let them bring someone - even someone new. Smiley smile
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  • Mcskipper
    Rockstar July 2018
    Mcskipper ·
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    I just sent the save the date to the friend in question. Then when invites went out, included the other guest by name.


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    Dedicated October 2022
    AJ ·
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    A person's significant other is not a plus one. Plus ones are for the truly single people, people who are in a relationship are a social unit and should be invited together. In your situation you would just address the save the date to your guest - you don't need to include plus ones on the save the date.

    If this person is still in the relationship by the time of your wedding when you are ready to send out invites you would address it to the person you are inviting and their guest by name - if you said Miss So and So plus guest that is incredibly rude. Plus ones are reserved to the truly single people if you are allowing them to bring someone.

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    Devoted August 2022
    Bride2Be ·
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    Ah I didn’t think about it that way! Thank you! I will include their bf by name on the invite only if they are still together when those get ordered.
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    Dedicated October 2022
    AJ ·
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    I was so peeved when my fiancé and I got invited to his friends wedding and it was addressed to him + guest, we had been engaged at that point and together for several years - I have met this friend multiple times. Its just poor etiquette. My brother and my cousin are truly single and they will be getting a plus one addressed with their their name and plus one, everyone else in relationships will get invites addressed to them and their s/o by name - if I don't know their name I'll find out, its not hard to ask but most of my guests are married or engaged

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  • Michelle
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    Michelle ·
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    For people in relationships, you find out what their significant others’ names are. For a true plus one for an unattached single, they are a random stranger and do not need be invited.
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  • Jacks
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    Jacks ·
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    Yep the STD can go to one person, but if they identify as being in a relationship at the time of invitations go out then address to both of the couple.

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