Hi. So I was discussing STD’s and invitations to my cousin. She said I shouldn’t send invitations to everyone, only to those who RSVP via STD. I have never heard of that, I was thinking of sending STD AND invites to all. She said that’s how she did hers, what do you all think? Thank you
RSVPs go with the invitation, not the save the date. I've heard of people only sending save the dates yo some guests (like out of towners and VIPs) and then invitations to everyone. The save the date is a relatively new thing and it's exactly as it sounds. It gives guests a heads up. The invitation is what actually invites people to the wedding, and that is what people RSVP to.
That doesn’t make sense. There’s no RSVP to save the dates. As another stated, it’s not necessary to send save the dates to everyone (or even at all), but everyone should get an invitation. Guests RSVP to that and only that.
That sounds really strange to me honestly. I haven't heard of anyone in my personal life sending RSVP's with a STD. The STD is just to give the guests that date of the event. It's to allow them time to take the time off of work and to start looking into travel arrangements if they have to travel for you wedding. The STD as a way to let them know to expect a formal invitation. The RSVP's should go with your invitations when you do send them out.
I know it’s unusual but we did an rsvp card with our save the date, (we felt the need to send STD’s in the first place because most of the people we’re inviting are not from the state where we are having the wedding.) My fiancé suggested it and honestly it makes sense to me if you’re trying to save money. We figured we’d cut the cost of having to buy invites for people who won’t even come. It’s probably not the classiest thing to do but I’d rather spend that money somewhere else if I can.
No one RSVPed to our save the dates, we put our RSVP card in the invitations. Also on our info card we put our wedding website which has our registry linked. Some guests may not be able to make it, but will still want to send you a gift.