Y'all. . . .i just. . .
Let's start from the beginning. My father and i haven't kept contact in a while. He re-entered my life about two years ago and things were ok. He came to my college graduation party last spring and decided that would be a great time to call the whole family to the table (3 aunts and 2 uncles and my grandma) to tell me that I was fat and ugly and that it's not okay for me to "look like that" (referring to my weight gain). No one said a word. My mom said "listen to your dad". The only people that stood up for me were my cousins and my siblings. That experience left a bad taste in my mouth and I honestly don't want a repeat of that event. At my graduation (I'm the first and only family member to ever graduate from college) all they could talk about was my weight gain, imagine a wedding. On top of all that, they had an issue with my fiance because of his race although they claim they're not racist. My mom says I have to invite family because they're family. . . but we don't even talk? She even told me to send an invitation anyway because they probably wouldn't come. Has anyone dealt with this before? I don't even know how to reason with her anymore. It's caused more stress than it's worth. Should I just send wedding announcements after?