Invitations

I would still send an invitation, just in case their plans change.

If people indicate to me they cannot attend after receiving our save the dates, I will not be sending them an invitation. Doing so would just feel very pushy to me, or like I didn’t listen to them/remember speaking to them.

A save the date is simply a heads up that your wedding is upcoming. People do not formally reply to them. However whomever receives one must also receive a formal invite. It is highly rude to not do so. Alot can change in the 10-12 months ahead when save the dates are sent and when formal invites are sent at 6-8 weeks prior.

I was kind of surprised, but we got one of those, too. I decided to send them an invitation anyway, but I'm going to include a note saying, "I know you said you wouldn't be coming to our wedding, so please don't feel any pressure to respond, but if your plans happen to change, we'd love to see you," or something like that. We actually ended up postponing the reception so I guess it would make sense for us to send them an invitation (sans note) anyway, but that was my plan before covid. We didn't send them a new save the date when we sent those out.

Yes I would still send them. Their plans may change!

Still send an invitation! Plans change, and I feel it's better to have them decline on the RSVP than just word of mouth.

Everyone who received a save the date should receive an invitation. Regardless of what they told you previously, their plans could change and they may decide to attend.