Invitations

We just put this on ours we were mostly paying for the wedding:

Could you just do "Together with their parents..?" Instead of their names?

Or together with their families

My mom wants her and my dads name indicting they are hosting the wedding at the top. So I originally had
Mr and Mrs Mark... (my step dad who is my dad and walking me down the aisle, possibly beside my "father")
Mr and Mrs Brian...(my father and evil step mom)
Requests the honour of your presence to celebrate the love of their daughter
Erica
And
Jon
Son of
(His parents)

My mom didnt like that bc my father didnt help with venue therefore hes not hosting. So i changed it to the original except
Erica...
Daughter of Mr. Brian...
To
Jon
Son of....
And now she feels his name being in center under mine takes away from us...I'm so stressed!!
I get it, i dont have that father daughter relationship with my father but i also dont like confrontation or to hurt any feelings

View Quoted Comment I agree that it does break the wording up weird to have your dads name after yours, usually you see the couples names together centered so they stand out. I get not wanting to leave his name out and potentially causing drama, but your mom has a point that he’s not hosting and listing him at the top implies he is. I don’t have any better suggestion for where to put it, sorry!

I also think “Requests (this should be ‘request’ since it is both of your parents together not one person) the honor of your presence to celebrate the love of their daughter Erica and Jon” reads weird (to me at least). Maybe “the love shared between their daughter Erica and Jon” if you don’t want to go the traditional “celebrate the marriage of their daughter...”

Not sure if this article helps at all. Could you have someone make some changes with the design at all so his name doesn't look so centered? There has to be a way around this for you. Good luck girl!

https://www.theknot.com/content/wedding-invitation-wording-sticky-situations

Even though my husband and I paid for ours, we actually put their names up top very small

Mr and Mrs Joe T and Mr and Mrs Tom P invite you to celebrate the union of their children MATT T and MELLE P (so our names are very large)

My mom and FHs mom are paying for pretty much everything and we just put "together with their families." It's not that big of a deal, at least not in my circle.

View Quoted Comment The love shared...i love it! We didnt like the wording of celebrate the love or marriage so our invites are just rough drafts til we found better wording!! Thank you!!

View Quoted Comment I know I tried that. But my father and I havent really gotten along my entire life. He doesnt really deserve any of it. Walk me down. Being on invite nothing. Between the age of 20 and 24 i didn't talk to my father. He pretty much disowned me (my son was 2-6 during those 4 years) and when I was little he had me every other weekend AT THE BARS while he got smashed til 3am. I was young. At 11 he then quit drinking and had me at AA with him every other weekend. I still at 35 resent him for not being there (when my step dad has MY DAD since the age of 4) but my fiance wants me to mend things and IM TRYING LOL So I absolutely get my mom NOT wanting him on there. I dont either but my fiance has his opinion. I get it. Neither of us like the confrontation. Thanks ladies!!

View Quoted Comment I think that changes things. I haven't seen my father in over 7 years now. I would tell him thanks for contributing, and call it good. As I've said time and time again, sucky fathers don't get to claim the glory moments of being a dad. I would just out who you want on your invite.

We said "together with their families".

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"Sucky fathers don't get to claim the glory moments of being a dad." THIS! I haven't spoken to my dad in five years. I have no plans to tell him I'm getting married (we even got engaged on his birthday). My brother is going to walk me down the aisle. He also happens to live with my dad. lol.

But this post has got me thinking. I never really thought about the wording on the invitations. My FH and I are paying for 99% of our wedding, but my grandma wanted to get us a gift and asked what we were trying to do first. We hadn't put our deposit down yet, so she paid for it. We're paying for the rest. My grandma is someone who loves the attention. And she'll want everyone to know she helped even if it was only a dollar. I wouldn't be surprised if she wants her name on the invitations.

View Quoted Comment I'm fortunate enough to have my mom's boyfriend who has been nothing but a dad to me for the last 8 years. My real father was mad that he doesn't get to he the one to walk me down the aisle, so he isn't coming to the wedding at all, but I don't care. Honor those that are actually there for you and that care.