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Just Said Yes August 2020

Invitations

Rachel, on January 1, 2020 at 7:55 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 6

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Hey friends! I'm worried I might send the wrong message with my current unorthodox wedding invitation plan, haha.

I really want to be as sure as possible about how many folks are coming because I'm inviting 300 friends and doing the food myself, haha. Also have a very tight budget. I have some odd family members that tend to show up without responding, so I've been thinking about only putting the date, state & town, and a wedding email on the invites. If folks were interested they could email for more information, I would give them a link to our wedding website which has everything on it, and they could rsvp on there. That way I would be able to talk to people who were interested and hopefully get a better idea.

The invitations would not say RSVP because they don't have all the info on them, just enough for the person to check if they would even be able to be in the area on the date.

Does this sound reasonable? I'm an overthinker and my fiance and I are not going to have a super traditional wedding as it is. I'm not sure where I need to be reigned in or not, haha.

TIA

~Rachel

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Latest activity by Meghan, on January 2, 2020 at 4:45 PM

Champion October 2018
Kelly · on January 1, 2020 at 8:14 PM
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This sounds like it would make things a lot more difficult for you because people would be confused when they received an invite without RSVP instructions. Make the RSVP date a couple weeks before you need final numbers and call or text anyone who hasn’t RSVP’d. If they still don’t give you an answer just say if I don’t get a yes or no by x date I will have to count you as a no.
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Master May 2019
Cyndy · on January 1, 2020 at 9:52 PM
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I totally agree with PP. don’t create more work for yourself.
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Super September 2019
Courtney · on January 1, 2020 at 10:54 PM
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If I got that I would interpret it as a save the date and would be waiting for an invite. I wouldn’t email you and would then not attend because I would have no wedding details, which I think would be a pretty common result. I would definitely ask for RSVPs which you could do through the website and give yourself plenty of time. Then call/ texting your missing RSVPs and since you’re expecting people to show up without RSVPing (I would be VERY annoyed but that’s just me lol) I would add a buffer of food and seats for a few more.
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Super August 2021
Dierdra · on January 2, 2020 at 2:36 AM
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I agree with the above! Especially if you are doing all of the meal prep yourself make sure the deadline is a few weeks before! I saw a pinterest RSVP card that on the bottom said if not RSVped by X date bring your own sandwich and a lawn chair haha
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Master September 2019
Sherry · on January 2, 2020 at 10:52 AM
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While I see your point, that will be confusing to a lot of people and most won't even bother. If people can't RSVP, they surely won't contact you for more information. Regardless of which way you choose, you will have to chase people for an answer.
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Master October 2019
Meghan · on January 2, 2020 at 4:45 PM
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This would be very confusing for everyone involved.
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