Invitations

To clarify, people think that they're not invited because they haven't received an invitation, but a lot of the people who think this are definitely on our guest list.

I think the general rule to send out invites is 6-8 weeks in advance. More if it’s a destination wedding.


Our friends are getting married the week after you and already sent out their invitations. We are getting married October 10th and will be sending ours out in early July with a deadline of September 1st.
The timing will also be dependent on the requirements for your final head counts. You’ll want to make sure you have a few days to collect stragglers too.

It’s way too early. How about STD now? I did a postcard about 5 -6 months out. Postcards postage stamps are cheaper.

View Quoted Comment That's a good idea, I didn't know that! Thanks.

Not standard etiquette maybe, but the general practice I've seen is everyone expects Save The Dates a year out, or whenever the date is set if you're closer. Invitations are 3-4 months, but you haven't officially notified anyone of your date yet, so I'm sure they are wondering. People are also very busy, so courtesy would say those who are invited should somehow know by now.

By April is good

I would just send a save the date now, it’s not too late for that and it’ll get people off your back!

Our wedding is end of June and we sent invites in Dec. Relatives from my moms side been asking since last summer . You can jus stop re assure them or do STD. But 6-8 weeks is standard and like 3 months prior for destination

Send them out. People need time to plan their trip: book flights, get hotels, get rental cars, take time off work/school....
Better to send a little early and have everyone know who’s coming- as well as yourself.

My wedding is in November and I sent mine at the end of January. Most people are local but I prefer to give people lots of advanced warning for a big event like a wedding.

My wedding is June 6 and we sent out save the dates in January. I just ordered invites last week and plan on sending them out beginning of April, which is the 8 weeks out mark.
Personally if I didn’t send out save the dates I would send out invites now. Especially having a wedding in the summer, guests are going to want to make sure they are not on vacation, time off work, etc.

My cousin is getting married the same day as you, and if I'm being honest I'm a little irritated that she hasn't sent her invites yet. She decided against a STD (totally fine), but there will be significant travel involved for most of our family to get to her wedding. I keep watching flight prices go up, and its getting to the point that I may not be able to afford to go to her wedding. She's in mine in November, so I really would like to go. But I don't feel comfortable booking until we have an invite.

View Quoted Comment That makes sense. I have a few family members who live out of state, I don't expect some of them to come but others may. I think I'll go ahead and get ready to mail them out! I bought them already, so all I have to do are envelopes.

I wouldn’t send a std now, it’s so close to when you’d send your invitations I feel like it would be a waste of money. If money isn’t an issue then I guess if you could get them out this week, go for it. But if you send your invites 2-3 months in advance that’s a month from now. Not worth the money to send save the dates. I wouldn’t send invites any early than April 11 ( 3 months out). Your guests just need to chill haha