Invitations

Invite them if you want them there. Don't invite them if you don't want them there. If you have other cousins from your dad's side that you'll be inviting, I would be prepared for some drama for inviting them and not the others.

I agree with Caytlyn.

My opinion on family like that (slightly distant) is that unless you should probably make your decisions as if they're friends or acquaintances, not family. If you weren't related to them and wouldn't invite them, I wouldn't send an invitation unless you have an obligation from another family member or money to invite pretty much everyone you know. I have some similar family members that are kind of on the edge like that, and I just thought that if I wouldn't be offended if I wasn't invited to their wedding, they shouldn't be offended that they're not invited to mine.

Similar situation, but it was my dads brother. He passed 5 years ago I think it’s been. Anyway we haven’t spoken to his wife or kids since, at least I haven’t I don’t even have them on Facebook. I’m sure my story has more drama to it than yours (which i won’t get into) but I didn’t invite them to my wedding. And to my knowledge no one was upset about it.
If it had been my dads sister, i probably would have invited those cousins because we’re closer. Maybe the uncle, her husband, maybe not (I’m not close to him)
I think you have to look at the relationship you have with them. If you’re close to your cousins i think you could probably invite them and not your uncle. Have you spoke with your dad to see how he feels about them coming?

I have a huge family. My mom is number 9 out of 11 kids and I have about 40+ cousins. Nearly half of them wouldn't even know who I was if they saw me on the street. I decided I was only going to invite the aunts and uncles and the like 7 or 8 cousins that I'm actually close to. I say if you haven't even spoken to or seen these people in a while, I wouldn't worry about inviting them unless you truly want them there.

I agree with Michelle. If you haven't spoken, then don't invite.

View Quoted Comment This sounds just like me. Lol Same family tree and same decision I made.

I think everyone has run into a similar situation with invites. I totally understand how it becomes a dilemma. I’ve read through my guest list and thought well I invited this person and if I don't invite this person then they will be upset. Honestly there is family I haven’t seen in a while but wouldn’t dream of not inviting them, I think it depends on the relationship. Couples with big families especially have to draw a line somewhere. My fiancé was reading a list given to him as suggestions for his side by his mom and there were some distant cousins that he couldn’t remember what they look like, I told him I didn’t think It was necessary to invite them. We would not be hurt if the shoe was on the other foot.

View Quoted Comment Lol. Got to do what you got to do!

If you cant see your wedding day without them then invite them, but if you wouldn't miss them there then done bother. I'm not inviting any of my family that I only see once a year and barely even talk to the one time I do see them. So its completely up to you and if you have the room and budget for those extra people.

I agree with what the other ladies said, but also maybe check with your dad? If he feels strongly about having his ex-brother-in-law and nieces/nephews there then that might make the decision easier for you. If he agrees that it's not necessary then there ya go

Invite whom you want. Your cousins are still your cousins (although not first). Your late aunt's husband has move on.

Ask your dad! he might have a preference, and they are his sister's kids. Just be ready for drama if you do not invite.

For us, if we have to really ponder hard about whether to invite someone or not, our default is no. FH and I aren’t inviting (and paying for) “just because” guests.