Invitations

Not addressing them to children.

I put it on our websites NO CHILDREN EXCEPT THOSE IN THE WEDDING PARTY. Also on the invitations it will say Adult reception to follow. I also told everyone by mouth. And our planner and our hostess at the venue know to turn away anyone who comes with a child

We are having kids at our wedding because we have two of our own that we want to include. However, we got invited to a wedding in October of this year that is kid-free. They didn't put anything on the invitation, just on the FAQs page of their website, but we know the couple pretty well and already knew it wasn't going to be a kid-friendly event. I would definitely put it in writing somewhere, but it also helps to spread word of mouth too. I don't know that everyone would necessarily see it if it's just on the FAQs page of the website, but when we went in to RSVP it specifically had FH's name and my name, so that makes it pretty clear. I've also seen people include wording like "we've reserved # of seats in your honor" on RSVP cards to make it clear only the adults are welcome. Happy planning!

We didn't address our save the dates to any " & family", just specific names, and people still thought their kids were invited. We ended up adding something on the website about it being adults only as well as put it with the details for the invitations. Fingers crossed! Haha

View Quoted Comment I like that "Adult reception ".
I might use that! Thx

We're addressing invitations to only the adults, stating how many seats will be reserved on the RSVP, stating it on the website, and spreading it word of mouth.

We specifically addressed STD’s to adults only and will do the same for our invitations. We also put on our website that it was adults only.

Take my advise: specifically say “adult only reception” on the invitation. I thought people would get the hint when I only addressed the invitation to the adults and only had their names on the wedding website to rsvp....nope! A handful of people asked about if their kids could come, some just ended up bringing them anyway (grrrrr) and others made a big deal about it!

just don’t assume people will take the hint. Many don’t get wedding etiquette (or don’t care) unless they have just recently planned their own wedding.

We are doing the same and at the bottom of the save the date wrote *this is an adult only affair* and we are doing alot of word of mouth. People don’t always take the hint even when it’s written or even addressed to specific people.

So i addresses the save the dates to only the adults. And on the invites I’m putting adult affair, addressing to only the adults and on the rsvp cards only allowing how many sears invited. Like a couple I’ll put ___ of 2. And I’m putting in the exact number so they can’t add more because if i leave it blank they can put their kids in the count.

View Quoted Comment Same thing happened to me... and one situation was actually from one of my BRIDESMAIDS PARENTS 🤬 I was so freakin’ irritated. I addressed the invitation to Mr. and Mrs. so and so... and then they wrote 4 were attending 🤦🏼‍♀️ Like umm excuse you? So no, the addressing who is invited doesn’t work. I did put “adult only celebration” on the RSVP, but I just decided to let it go because my BMs brothers are 17 and 18 so honestly who cares 🤷🏼‍♀️

View Quoted Comment So frustrating!! We didn't write we have reserved __ seats in your honor though I'm thinking maybe we should have? Good luck to all of us that want kid free weddings 😂🤷

View Quoted Comment I wanted to write that exact phrase!! But my MIL to be said we shouldn’t do that because people will get it. She thought it would seem rude and kind of like over kill. NOPE. People are dumb. I mean... not as observant as I wish they were 😉 I also had a childhood friend’s mother make her ask me if my wedding was really adult only even thought it literally said right on the RSVP. 🤦🏼‍♀️ Her mom really just wanted me to let her kid slide. We have made exceptions... but not for your kid 😬 Sorry not sorry!

“Unfortunately, due to space limitations, we are having an Adults-Only Weekend in the mountains. The children attending are family and wedding participants.

If you need help making arrangements for weekend childcare, please let us know and we will do what we can to assist.

Thank you for understanding our decision to make the wedding adults-only, and we hope you take the opportunity to let your hair down and celebrate in style!”

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They brought their kids anyway when you didn't have their names on the website to RSVP?! Ahh! that is trerrible I'm sorry. I did the same things you did I thought for sure the RSVP names would be the biggest hint. Now I'm worried! On my RSVP card, I put "we have reserved ___ seats in your honor" so hopefully that also helps?? I am so worried about people just bringing them!

Yep a handful of people ended up bringing their kids even though they weren't listed on the invitation or on the website where you had to RSVP ...(shakes head)

The only children that will be at our wedding is the 3 that are in the wedding party. We put a notice on our website that our wedding is no children and the url is on our save the dates and we put "adult reception to follow" on our invitations.

I'd address the invites to just the parents, then on the RSVP card put "___ out of ___ attending" and fill out the second line for number of adults in the household.

I have had it on our wedding website from the very beginning that it's adults only, and I popped the wedding website right onto my STD cards. I also included a wedding website insert in the invitations themselves ("Please visit our website!") where I clarify that, though we love all of our relatives, the guest list is 18+. We also mostly put individual names on the invitations. I think we have like two envelopes going out that are addressed to "The ____ Family," since they're both families with aunt, uncle, and unmarried college age adult children.

We ar having no children.

We have it listed on wedding website
Have the RSVP cards that read "we have __ seats reserved for you."

And a small line on the back of the invite reads : although we love and cherish children, we respectfully request that this be an adult only affair.

Not all three are necessary... but we know different people need to receive the info in different ways. We even made phone calls to some folks and made sure to have the conversation before invites went out.