Invitations vs save the dates on a destination wedding

I'm going to give the people going a poker chip with the date on it as something special for them to remember

I'm confused. Who is welcome but not on you?

I think they need a save the date so they can plan to make travel plans. Invites go out maybe the first week or second week of August.

Wait, wut? What do you mean they are welcome, but not on us? lol

Here's what I did for save the dates. Ordered vistaprint.com postcards. 100 for 9.99. Nothing fancy just a tux & gown from their choices. Filled in the blanks, made personal & mailed. BAM!

@Lindsey I think she is saying the guest is responsible for getting themselves to the event.

They're welcome, but not on us?

I hope you are hosting sometype of reception there that is a lot of effort and expense if there is nothing for the guests afterward.

Everone

Everyone? Are you not hosting anything?

Amanda - send a save date (if you wish, it's not necessary) only to those who are invited. Send them 4-6 months before for a local wedding, 8-10 months prior for a destination wedding.

Send your invitations 6-10 weeks (the normal is 6-8) weeks prior to your wedding. Once again, only to those who are invited.

Do not send anything to people not invited. That's crazy town.

You have 30+ confirmed guests? So you have already sorta saved your date via word of mouth? I'd just send out the invitations a bit sooner - like 10-12 weeks out. Not sure what is meant by "Not on us." Can you explain?

You can always send traditional announcements to those who couldn't make it after the wedding.

These people going all are going to do their own things mostly. We aren't doing a real reception at all. Yes we will be doing something after as a group but anyways.. I want to send out something... A card or invitation inviting people but it's more for people to use as a keepsake because we were trying to run away to get married but we've got so many that love us they are going too.

So you're inviting these people to come to vegas for your wedding then not having anything hosted for them?

Can we get past the not on us part?!! It's me saying I'm not paying for them

We really can't. If you're inviting guests you need to at least feed them and provide them with alcohol.

So you are inviting them to "do their own thing"? I am so confused. What exactly are they invited to?

No, we can't get past it lol.

What exactly are you inviting these people to then? We're confused. Can you just clarify? Pretty please.

I'm a little confused as well! If they are invited, they're invited. They can RSVP "No" and save the invitation as a keepsake if they want, or they can RSVP "Yes" and attend your wedding. Invite who you want to invite, but give them the option!

If there are people you do not want to invite you could send them a wedding announcement after you are married!

I'm so confused. Are you inviting these people to watch your ceremony? And not hosting any sort of reception?