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Invitations Timeline

Mckenzley, on November 26, 2019 at 4:07 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 3

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Hello!

I need some tips and advice regarding invitations and timelines for the bachelorette party, bridal shower, and wedding, and wedding RSVP's.

Our wedding date is May 2nd, 2020. I am sending out Save the Dates within the next couple weeks. I plan to mail wedding invitations out the first week of March and have the RSVP's due the first week of April.

I am getting confused on when to have a bridal shower and to send out invitations for that. I have read that it is wise to send out wedding invitations before the bridal shower invitations. However, I don't understand how that is possible? I am also not sure when to have a bachelorette party.

If anyone has any advice and things that worked well for them I would greatly appreacite it!

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Latest activity by Allison, on November 27, 2019 at 11:02 AM

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Tamera · on November 26, 2019 at 4:49 PM
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My wedding is around the same time (May 30th) and I am planning to send out invites in Feburary (half of our guest list is out of state and will need to make travel arrangements) and RSVP set for April. I have bridal showers in March and April and will send those out about January/February and have RSVP about 2 weeks before. I don't think it matters when, as long as everyone that is invited to the showers is also invited to the wedding.
Also, having my bachelorette party the evening of my bridal shower, so it is all in one weekend.
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Cristy · on November 26, 2019 at 6:54 PM
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I agree with Tamera (my date twin!!), about the timing. All pre-wedding events are optional, so there's no real hard and fast rule about when to have them. It is suggested that a bridal shower take place 3-5 months before the wedding, but again, that's optional. It can be sooner than that, or later. Look at your calendar, talk to your people (parents, BMs, friends/family), to see what month works good for the majority. You shouldn't be planning your own shower of course, but you can give the hostess input on the dates that work for you.
As for bachelorette, I see most brides doing something closer to the wedding, with the exception of brides who combine the shower and bachelorette into one weekend (like Tamera). My sister did her bachelorette about 2 weeks before the wedding. But the shower was 3 months before. Just find what works for you and your people. There's no rule. Nobody is going to come up to you and go "you're doing it wrong!" LOL

One last thing, shower invites should be sent about 4-6 weeks from the date of the shower.
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Allison · on November 27, 2019 at 11:02 AM
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I have a similar timeline--May 16th! It's getting closer for sure. I was going to send out wedding invitations late Feb with an early April RSVP. I'm leaving the shower/other parties up to my girls but they are thinking mid April for that so I assume they would send their invites out in March.

Good Luck!
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