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Invitations - Parents present...?

Brigitte, on February 4, 2020 at 8:57 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 1 23

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Need your opinions ladies!

Are you or are you not writing ""Brides Parents" and "Grooms Parents" present the matrimony of "Bride" and Groom" . . ." ?

It just seems so old and archaic to me. My parents are helping with money, but they 100% paying for my wedding like in the old days.

What do y'all think?

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Latest activity by Nicole, on February 7, 2020 at 10:42 PM

Legend November 2019
Caytlyn · on February 4, 2020 at 9:05 AM
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I think "together with their families..." is more modern and still includes the parents.
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Savvy July 2021
Brigitte · on February 4, 2020 at 9:08 AM
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Oooo that's a good idea! Thank you!
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Master September 2019
Sherry · on February 4, 2020 at 9:18 AM
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We only used our names but a lot of couples use "together with their families" instead of listing parents.
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Devoted August 2020
Caila · on February 4, 2020 at 9:23 AM
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I know it does seem old school, but since our families are paying for a majority of the wedding we are putting Mr. (my dad) Ms. (my mom) and Mr. (my fiance's parents) invite you to the wedding of their children Caila Petrie and Jordan Kearns
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VIP August 2020
Kathryn · on February 4, 2020 at 9:24 AM
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Only used our names. No one wanted to try and figure how to keep all 4 of my parents on there and have them all happy.
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Master September 2020
Nicole · on February 4, 2020 at 9:28 AM
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We used “together with their families” as we are paying for the majority but both sides are gifting us a generous amount.
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Super March 2020
Jennifer · on February 4, 2020 at 9:29 AM
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We still put "names request your presence at the wedding of their daughter..." My parents offered to help pay so much more than I could have ever asked. I thought it was the least I could do.
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VIP February 2020
Lauren · on February 4, 2020 at 9:36 AM
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Our invitations were very traditional and listed both set of parents' names. My parents are paying for about 95% of the wedding, but FH's parents are doing a lot of stuff for it as the wedding will be about 10 minutes from their house. My mom really wanted to include FH's parents on the invitation as they're helping do a lot of things.
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Expert September 2021
Dayna · on February 4, 2020 at 9:47 AM
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Minted has an awesome guide for wording invitations with lots of different suggestions for more traditional, modern, etc. wording throughout the invitation. I would definitely suggest looking at it! https://www.minted.com/wedding-ideas/wedding-invitation-wording
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Savvy July 2021
Brigitte · on February 4, 2020 at 10:01 AM
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Thanks so much!
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Dedicated August 2020
Hallie · on February 4, 2020 at 10:11 AM
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We listed our parents per my mom's request and I was absolutely okay with it. My parents are paying a large portion of our wedding it was the least we could do honor them. I Ordered our invitations off Ann's Bridal Bargains. They're are many template options and you can customize the invitations to your style and include parents or families present whichever you're comfortable with.
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Super August 2020
Alex · on February 4, 2020 at 10:12 AM
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My parent's are paying for 100% of the wedding and hosting the event. It would be rude not to include them on the invitation.

I think the real decision point is who is hosting your wedding: You and your FH or your parents?
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Master July 2019
Hannah · on February 4, 2020 at 10:28 AM
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We also did "together with their families" because we split the costs equally 3 ways (us, my parents, and his parents).
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Legend June 2019
Melle · on February 4, 2020 at 10:34 AM
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We did that but only because it made sense to for the people we allowed them to invite. They didn't pay for our wedding either.
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Super October 2021
Kevin · on February 4, 2020 at 10:40 AM
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Our also says together with their families. We didn’t want them to be super formal
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Devoted March 2019
Katie · on February 4, 2020 at 10:48 AM
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We did
"Katie Marshall and Jon Oleson (large font)
together with their families (smaller font)….."
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Master May 2020
Kari · on February 4, 2020 at 10:51 AM
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Are you talking about on the program or invite, or something else?

We just used our first names and "together with their loved ones" because we didn't want the formality of using full names and titles and risking not including anyone. Loved ones for us pretty much covers everyone, and gives as much credit to our closest friends as it does our blood relatives that maybe we aren't as close to.
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Savvy July 2021
Brigitte · on February 4, 2020 at 11:00 AM
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I just realized there's a typo in my original post. My parents are helping a bit with $, but are not paying for everything.
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Expert October 2020
Haley · on February 4, 2020 at 12:59 PM
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I put "together with their families, Bride and Groom invite you to celebrate" because we've both got too many parents (plus each of us have a deceased parent) AND my grandparents are paying for 80% of the wedding, his grandparents are paying for the rehearsal dinner, and then our parents are helping with some smaller stuff.
Thats too many people to put on there hahaha.
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VIP August 2021
Jennifer · on February 4, 2020 at 2:38 PM
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We did "Together with our families"
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