Invitations - How many per household

One per person over the age of 18...younger doesn't require one.

So long as they live in the same house, I am not sending more than one. We only ended up needing about 25 invites for the 60 people attending our wedding.

So if they are a family of 8 (parents, 4 kids (grown adults), and 1 adult and her boyfriend) I need to send a total of 6invites to that house?

Technically etiquette says what Aftan said. however, i think it's pretty dumb. most of the people who still live with their parents would have their parents fill it out anyway. I am just doing one per household UNLESS there is the significant other invited of one of those people. example, we are inviting a mother, her 2 kids, and the gf of one of the kids (these "kids" are actually our age). we sent one invitation to the mother and one son, and a separate invitation to the other son and his gf.

WOW!!!!! Didn't realize that!!! However, if I still lived at home and my parent received an invite I wouldn't automatically assume I was invited. Do you have the whole outer envelope/inner envelope thing going? If so, I would send one addressed to parents on outer envelope and list mr. and mrs. whatever, then the 4 kids names. Then send one addressed to the 1 adult on the outer envelope and list both names on the inner envelope. Did that make sense?

I literally wrote each person's name who was invited. example:

Mr. and Mrs. Smith

Messrs. Joe, Jim, and Jack Smith

We did 1 per household. If the kids were invited as well, we put "The Smith Family"

"Respectfully only named guests are invited please" was on the bottom of our RSVP cards. It worked.

Makes total sense! It's mind boggling how 30somethings still live at home, but hey, glad it's not me. However, I do have to suffer through figuring out this headache. The big envelope w/ smaller inside makes sense and does cut costs to an extent.

I just am afraid that "Tom, Rick, and Harry" will RSVP w/ possibly with a +1, but Moe, Curley, Larry and Bambi" won't. Which will leave me wondering if the first 3 guys +1 RSVP their less intelligent brother or a legitimate +1 outside of the fam. Really, I hate ambiguity.

I do too!!! I actually wasn't clear whether kids were invited or not with mine. On my website/app i put children are welcome but on the actual invites I just put names "mr and mrs. whatever" or "mr. jones and guest"...nothing about children...I actually prefer no kids but i have my two sons (in the wedding) but every person in my family has at least one child under the age of 10. blech

Oh man, I didn't even think about this....I am only doing one per household otherwise I think it's a waste...what are they going to hang 2 invites on the fridge?

1 per social unit, not one per household. So if you've got a house with two parents, 4 adult kids, and 1 other adult with a boyfriend, yes, that's 6 invitations.

You might think, "It's such a waste!" or, "What are they going to do with six invitations on the fridge!" but this is an etiquette thing. You wouldn't send 1 invitation to all those people if they didn't live in the same house--that's because they're all separate social units. So spend the extra money to send all the invitations. Be polite.

@stephanie pfft! That's all I have to say.

@amber One suggestion to keep track of the guest numbers is to add a line to the RSVP saying "______ number of guests attending."

My FH's parents had received like 6 invitations in the mail for an anniversary party, I thought it was so stupid honestly. I don't know maybe it was just because they sent them all to his parents house because they didn't know where the kids lived though.

I think that as long as everyone you want the invite to be for is written plainly on the inner envelope they would count who out of those people would be coming. I would just send two to this particular household unless you have the spare invites to send 6

We did one per household..I wrote out an invite for both my great uncle & his daughter and found out when I was getting addresses that she still lives at home.. that was the only house that we sent more than one invite to, and today I got their RSVP back, they wrote both their names on the same RSVP anyhow. Honestly, if you follow every single little etiquette rule, you are probably going to go broke. We followed the etiquette rules that were more important to us. Maybe its regional, but alot of the little etiquette rules I thought were extremely important by reading online, people really dont care about.

This is a good place for my rant. I would send them the way you want be sure to "follow-Up" I have so many issues even with my short guest list. I did the addressing per household the proper way and since most of the invitees are not as "etiquette educated" we have been receiving text messages emails and phone calls about who is invited, what time the ceremony is and is the ceremony and reception at the same place. Did you read the invitation, it is very clear on the details,

My favorite is from my FBIL " mind you I addressed the invite to Him and Family (he is divorced but we want to invite our niece and nephews so I addressed it as MR. x and Family), one would assume this is meant for him and his children, as far as we know he Is not in a relationship, yet he calls wanting to know if the kids are invited and whether or not he can bring a guest "the invitation was not specific on that"

OH LORD ~ Do what you feel comfortable with